Glennon Doyle

It's a good point, though, to figure out for Shira what Shira needs and wants. Because what you're talking about when you say all of that, I'm thinking we do that because we want to still be needed.

It's a good point, though, to figure out for Shira what Shira needs and wants. Because what you're talking about when you say all of that, I'm thinking we do that because we want to still be needed.

It's a good point, though, to figure out for Shira what Shira needs and wants. Because what you're talking about when you say all of that, I'm thinking we do that because we want to still be needed.

We do that because we're like, oh, I'm right now and my children are becoming adults and my role is completely different. It's the hardest part of parenting I've done. Yeah. And there is the tendency to create the codependent thing because you don't know who you are without that.

We do that because we're like, oh, I'm right now and my children are becoming adults and my role is completely different. It's the hardest part of parenting I've done. Yeah. And there is the tendency to create the codependent thing because you don't know who you are without that.

We do that because we're like, oh, I'm right now and my children are becoming adults and my role is completely different. It's the hardest part of parenting I've done. Yeah. And there is the tendency to create the codependent thing because you don't know who you are without that.

And so it could be the most important thing to be creating a life where your kids know you're okay so that your job actually can be to create resilient kids. Yeah. Because some of us get confused and think our job is to keep them needing me. Yeah. Yes.

And so it could be the most important thing to be creating a life where your kids know you're okay so that your job actually can be to create resilient kids. Yeah. Because some of us get confused and think our job is to keep them needing me. Yeah. Yes.

And so it could be the most important thing to be creating a life where your kids know you're okay so that your job actually can be to create resilient kids. Yeah. Because some of us get confused and think our job is to keep them needing me. Yeah. Yes.

And so to build the community that they need, that Shira and her partner need, and to build a career that she feels enlivened by and a life, then her kids can know she's okay and they'll be okay. Yeah.

And so to build the community that they need, that Shira and her partner need, and to build a career that she feels enlivened by and a life, then her kids can know she's okay and they'll be okay. Yeah.

And so to build the community that they need, that Shira and her partner need, and to build a career that she feels enlivened by and a life, then her kids can know she's okay and they'll be okay. Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. And I would just say, what is success? Really talking to each other about what does a successful family, what do you mean by that? Most of us don't even get to the differences of those ideas until 10 years in. But we've all been taught different things from our families of origin about what success means. I think sometimes people don't think enough about, yes, let's build community.

Yeah. Yeah. And I would just say, what is success? Really talking to each other about what does a successful family, what do you mean by that? Most of us don't even get to the differences of those ideas until 10 years in. But we've all been taught different things from our families of origin about what success means. I think sometimes people don't think enough about, yes, let's build community.

Yeah. Yeah. And I would just say, what is success? Really talking to each other about what does a successful family, what do you mean by that? Most of us don't even get to the differences of those ideas until 10 years in. But we've all been taught different things from our families of origin about what success means. I think sometimes people don't think enough about, yes, let's build community.

But the community you're in right now is the two of you. So what does a successful dad, what does a good dad mean to you? What does it mean to be a good mom? Because those are loaded things that we don't pull apart. We need to really get the mental load written down and really assign things. What are you going to do? What are you going to do?

But the community you're in right now is the two of you. So what does a successful dad, what does a good dad mean to you? What does it mean to be a good mom? Because those are loaded things that we don't pull apart. We need to really get the mental load written down and really assign things. What are you going to do? What are you going to do?

But the community you're in right now is the two of you. So what does a successful dad, what does a good dad mean to you? What does it mean to be a good mom? Because those are loaded things that we don't pull apart. We need to really get the mental load written down and really assign things. What are you going to do? What are you going to do?

The support often needs to be worked out within the family first, right? So I think there's beautiful conversations to be had. And anybody sitting down to figure out what success is instead of defaulting to the culture is going to be better off. Yeah. And there are many ways to build a family.

The support often needs to be worked out within the family first, right? So I think there's beautiful conversations to be had. And anybody sitting down to figure out what success is instead of defaulting to the culture is going to be better off. Yeah. And there are many ways to build a family.