Glennon Doyle

And I was like, shut up.

What are you talking about?

But the truth is that I only had a few foods that I decided were safe and everything else was bad and unsafe and I only had a few people that I decided were safe and everyone else is bad and unsafe and black and white and good and bad and that is that.

So,

I watched my daughter who had brought up this person who was, you know, 13, and then watched myself starting to talk shit about this 13-year-old, okay?

Making a full 50-year-old woman case against this person.

And I'm watching it and it's happening.

And for the first time I could see my daughter's eyes go dark.

Like I could see something blocking or hardening.

I don't know how to explain it.

Like dulling, dimming, nothing.

I kept going, but I noticed it.

Okay.

And it stayed with me for like

And I couldn't, I was like, oh my God, I just saw, I saw the effect of me passing that crap on to her.

And so a few days later, we went to dinner and I sat with her and I said something like, okay, so here's the thing.

Your mom, I have made this kind of like defense mechanism or this behavior that I do when I get scared.

And that thing is judgment.

And so I think that if I'm making a case against someone that you will stay away from them.

And so it's my attempt to protect you, but it's not protecting you.