Glennon Doyle

And then some of us are so superstitious that I'll speak for myself.

Every time I'm like making a secret birthday wish and my family's all around me, I want to wish for something for myself.

But then I'm like, oh God, I got to wish everybody stays happy and healthy again.

Because if I don't, I'm a bad mom.

So then I have to spend that on my wish every year.

And I kind of wish- Just squander your wish on the health and happiness of your family.

Exactly.

I just think caregivers should get two wishes.

But what do you think are some ideas to like,

go into our own birthdays without falling into the pitfalls of what makes us sad on our birthdays.

Yeah, we always want it to be an experience.

And that's another way of avoiding the pitfall of the secret test.

I think people use their birthdays as a secret test.

Will the other person figure out what I actually want and give it to me the way I want it?

And then the secret test birthday has never worked for anyone.

But that's an expectation that we talk about first because if you don't know the person, you could think that they want to party or you could think that then that person's miserable all day.

So clear expectations.

Good point.

We say happy birthday.

That is aggressive behavior.