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Glennon

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
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We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

And that's what I want to get into because one thing that I can do to make it helpful is that I have found over the last 15 years that there is kind of a system you can use to make misogynistic criticism less chilling. Oh. There is a way of seeing it clearly that makes what feels very personal at the moment become completely impersonal. It's not personal. None of this is personal.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

And that's what I want to get into because one thing that I can do to make it helpful is that I have found over the last 15 years that there is kind of a system you can use to make misogynistic criticism less chilling. Oh. There is a way of seeing it clearly that makes what feels very personal at the moment become completely impersonal. It's not personal. None of this is personal.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

And that's what I want to get into because one thing that I can do to make it helpful is that I have found over the last 15 years that there is kind of a system you can use to make misogynistic criticism less chilling. Oh. There is a way of seeing it clearly that makes what feels very personal at the moment become completely impersonal. It's not personal. None of this is personal.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

I'm going to tell you how I do that. Like the sorting system, I do that. And then the other reason that I think it's important is because when I talk to my friends who are not in as public positions as me about the kind of criticism I get, they absolutely relate to it. It's the same form in their offices or PTA meetings, or it's the same.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

I'm going to tell you how I do that. Like the sorting system, I do that. And then the other reason that I think it's important is because when I talk to my friends who are not in as public positions as me about the kind of criticism I get, they absolutely relate to it. It's the same form in their offices or PTA meetings, or it's the same.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

I'm going to tell you how I do that. Like the sorting system, I do that. And then the other reason that I think it's important is because when I talk to my friends who are not in as public positions as me about the kind of criticism I get, they absolutely relate to it. It's the same form in their offices or PTA meetings, or it's the same.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

It's a little bit different exposure, but the same... Types. Types, exactly. So here's... And you know this strategy, sister, because we've been doing it for so long. But when something goes out into the world or I'm stupid enough to log into an article someone's written about me, which I don't do... very often anymore.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

It's a little bit different exposure, but the same... Types. Types, exactly. So here's... And you know this strategy, sister, because we've been doing it for so long. But when something goes out into the world or I'm stupid enough to log into an article someone's written about me, which I don't do... very often anymore.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

It's a little bit different exposure, but the same... Types. Types, exactly. So here's... And you know this strategy, sister, because we've been doing it for so long. But when something goes out into the world or I'm stupid enough to log into an article someone's written about me, which I don't do... very often anymore.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

I used to do all the time, but now I'll do it like once every five years because I don't know why. There's an onslaught of feed out. Okay. Force feed. Force feed. Right, right, right, right, right. Or just like, you know, in the ether, right? And at first, the things that are said feel so horrifically horrible because they are about me.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

I used to do all the time, but now I'll do it like once every five years because I don't know why. There's an onslaught of feed out. Okay. Force feed. Force feed. Right, right, right, right, right. Or just like, you know, in the ether, right? And at first, the things that are said feel so horrifically horrible because they are about me.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

I used to do all the time, but now I'll do it like once every five years because I don't know why. There's an onslaught of feed out. Okay. Force feed. Force feed. Right, right, right, right, right. Or just like, you know, in the ether, right? And at first, the things that are said feel so horrifically horrible because they are about me.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

But what I figured out is if you are a woman and you put anything out into the world, let's imagine, okay, you know, I love a metaphor. Let's do this. You're a woman who leaves your home to put something out into the world, whether it's like a work in an office or a piece of art or an opinion or whatever it is.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

But what I figured out is if you are a woman and you put anything out into the world, let's imagine, okay, you know, I love a metaphor. Let's do this. You're a woman who leaves your home to put something out into the world, whether it's like a work in an office or a piece of art or an opinion or whatever it is.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

But what I figured out is if you are a woman and you put anything out into the world, let's imagine, okay, you know, I love a metaphor. Let's do this. You're a woman who leaves your home to put something out into the world, whether it's like a work in an office or a piece of art or an opinion or whatever it is.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

You've gone and put that piece of work into the mailbox, put the flag up, go back to your home. When you come back to that mailbox, you're going to have some feed out, okay, from the world. Just pages and letters and envelopes of feedback, feed out, whatever it is. You're not going to take that feedback into your house yet. It doesn't all belong in your house.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

You've gone and put that piece of work into the mailbox, put the flag up, go back to your home. When you come back to that mailbox, you're going to have some feed out, okay, from the world. Just pages and letters and envelopes of feedback, feed out, whatever it is. You're not going to take that feedback into your house yet. It doesn't all belong in your house.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

You've gone and put that piece of work into the mailbox, put the flag up, go back to your home. When you come back to that mailbox, you're going to have some feed out, okay, from the world. Just pages and letters and envelopes of feedback, feed out, whatever it is. You're not going to take that feedback into your house yet. It doesn't all belong in your house.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

First, you're going to sort the feedback and here's what you're going to find. I think there's probably four categories. maybe five now for me, five categories of feed out or feedback for me. The first will be about my looks. Something about how I look. I'm too ugly to do this work. I'm too pretty to do this work. I have too much Botox. I do not have enough Botox. I wear way too much makeup.

We Can Do Hard Things
Five Criticism Survival Strategies (Best Of)

First, you're going to sort the feedback and here's what you're going to find. I think there's probably four categories. maybe five now for me, five categories of feed out or feedback for me. The first will be about my looks. Something about how I look. I'm too ugly to do this work. I'm too pretty to do this work. I have too much Botox. I do not have enough Botox. I wear way too much makeup.