Gordon Flett
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1,089 appearances
3 recordings
2 series
first heard Feb 2026
last heard 15 Jun
Gordon Flett’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Sometimes just showing appreciation for people.
I know that things go better at home for us when I acknowledge the things, the many things that my wife does, because she tends to show her caring and mattering of me and our family members and
through the things that she does rather than, you know, emotional expressions necessarily, but expressing appreciation and recognizing that what somebody is doing is making a difference is critical in this because people will think, okay, well, I am now just being taken for granted.
As for Anne's comment about a question about,
Could you be trained to do this?
There are certain things.
I think, first of all, just becoming aware of mattering and having it as a lens to look at relationships is a very positive thing.
But you can just get into micro practices that you can do on a regular basis that will enhance somebody's sense of being seen and heard and respected.
Learning how to listen to somebody as opposed to looking at your phone and something that's called fubbing, where you're not really engaged with somebody.
You're sort of half listening.
because that will foster anti-mattering rather than a chance to give a deep listening and responsive listening that can give a sense of positive mattering.
Another key thing in terms of relationships that go beyond listening
couples and partners is to having some time for people.
One of the things that consistently comes out in the research that's been done on this is that when somebody spends their time with you, they're giving up their time that they could be used for something else.
And even doing something like composing a note to somebody or dropping them a quick call is showing that you've been thinking about them and you're taking the time to do it rather than, oh, I'll get around to it or
Why haven't I heard from somebody when I thought I would hear from them?
So there's things you can do.
And then I think just fostering an environment where you make it a much more salient thing in terms of mattering is a good thing as well, not only for relationships, but for organizations.
Yeah.
Yeah, I think it's a brilliant strategy and a fabulous concept because that's exactly what people need to do, especially during those times when
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