Gordon Flett
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1,089 appearances
3 recordings
2 series
first heard Feb 2026
last heard 15 Jun
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Although we talk about levels of mattering overall, in terms of who matters and who doesn't, in terms of who has the feeling of mattering,
And I'd like to point out to listeners that about 70, 75% of people have some sense of a feeling of mattering.
But when we talk about people from marginalized groups or stigmatized groups, the level of feeling of not mattering, the anti-mattering escalates.
And as one illustration of this in terms of research done in the U.S.
in terms of community feeling of mattering among adolescents and young adults is
it's about 50-50 in terms of the feeling of mattering in the community.
That's a very sad number when you think about it.
And a lot of well-being would come along from making more people have a chance to feel like they matter in the community.
But when we look at people from the LGBTQ plus community, we find that the levels of mattering in the community plummet down to about one out of three in some of the studies that have been done.
So when people are needing to be thoughtful about others and reaching out and
sending the message that everybody counts.
It's important to think about people who might feel like they're targets for not mattering and to be extra engaged in terms of trying to address their needs.
Yeah, it's a very difficult situation because it is the case that some people have an excessive need to matter.
And the more they get, the more they need, it seems.
And that seems to be the case here.
And
you know, hits home as well for me because my daughter's name is Allison.
And I know that she had an experience that was not very different from this one when she started high school.
I think the only thing you can do is you just have to be straight with someone and tell them that, you know, you like them as a person, but you're not necessarily interested in the way that they might
Like, but, you know, this is not going to necessarily land well, no matter how politely you put it, but at least you're being upfront with someone and showing that you care enough about them to be straight with them, rather than, you know, telling them.
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