Gordon Flett

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1,089 appearances 3 recordings 2 series first heard Feb 2026 last heard 15 Jun

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Hidden Brain · A Secret Source of Connection · 15 Jun 2026 podcast

something that could be too extreme in terms of harshness or too encouraging.

It's very unfortunate when people are at odds with this type of situation.

I once was coming home from San Francisco airport and the fellow who dropped me off at the airport said to me, I just picked you up.

Are you coming from a psychology conference?

And are you a psychologist?

I said, well, I'm not a clinical psychologist, but I am in psychology.

And he says, so then he proceeds to tell me that

you know, he's got a partner who's an older woman and she wants to get married, but he has told her repeatedly he's not interested in this and what can he do to try and make her realize that it's not a long-term situation that they're in.

And I told them that you just have to be, you know, right up front with her and hope that she'll understand, but try to do it in a way that will leave some people some psychological cushions to say that,

You know, it's not that they're not a nice person or they're not attractive to other people.

It's just that that's not how you see them and how you like to interact with them.

And you just need to find a way to do it in a way that will not humiliate somebody.

Yes.

Yeah.

That's an important point because there is a link between burnout and mattering, but most people are thinking about it in terms of

you know, well, I wasn't doing something that was effective.

I wasn't making a difference.

But you can make too much of a difference.

And this is something that was talked about in work by Nancy Schlossberg, who's talked about mattering and retirement and the need to feel appreciated.

And of the people that she surveyed, she found that caregivers were the only ones who said that, hey, you know, there is a problem when mattering goes too far because I feel like I'm being

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