Gorgi Coghlan

If our childhoods have been full of drama and dysregulation, that's going to feel safe to us.

So I keep saying to Simon, let's make her safe place, her home base, be one of emotional stability and vulnerability and openness.

Yeah.

Huge, huge challenge.

And I think it's all come to the fore when you turned 50.

I turned 50 last year and then mixed in a little bit of perimenopause with that.

Fun times.

Fun times.

And for me...

I think it's that combination layer of what you're saying is you're reparenting yourself, you're parenting your child, which you take so seriously.

You're possibly still beginning the process of parenting your own parents.

And my father passed away only sort of 18 months ago.

And mum's getting, you know, she's 82 now, so she's getting older.

And my brother's been unwell with a blood cancer.

So you've got that whole, I feel like and I'm happy to be this child

leader of the family, but when you've been parentified young, that's all you know.

But the cost of that is... it just becomes too much, the load becomes too much, and when people would always say, I mean, but you're so strong.

I mean, you're amazing, because you are so strong.

I realized that that was starting to trigger me, and I was getting resentful.

And at my 50th birthday, I made sure that I said to my girlfriends, who were just incredible group of friends,