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And importantly, they all represent different expectations in your head.

Like you simply cannot please them all and nor should you be trying to.

So instead, I think what's really useful here is consciously deciding on whose opinion actually counts.

Maybe it's your partner.

Maybe it's your sibling.

Maybe it's a parent.

Maybe it's some close friends.

Maybe it's your future self.

That is it.

Like create the panel and lock in the panel.

If those people would be proud of you for trying this specific thing, then I completely agree that that is enough.

And of course, you're not going to take every one of those people's preferences on that panel every single time.

Like I have certain friends who are going to think, oh yeah,

no that might work and other friends who are going to be like yeah go on why not try it it's about understanding that the panel is first of all friendlier than you think it's going to be and also it's opinions you respect people you would go to for advice because you shouldn't be taking feedback really from people you wouldn't go to for advice and i've

found that when you shrink the audience you really shrink the fear because when all you have to worry about is what people who love you think or people who you respect think you are much more likely to believe in yourself and just do it and I would really really recommend you having on that panel as I say someone you respect like not necessarily just your closest people like if you look up to someone if you think like this businesswoman is who I want to be

whoever it is in your field who's doing particularly well and you would like to be them, put them on your panel.

Like what do you think they would think in any of these scenarios?

Chances are if they've got to where they wanted to get to, they've had to do a hell of a lot of things that actually didn't work and putting them on your panel so that they can encourage that type of thinking when maybe you might be surrounded by people who think a little bit smaller is very useful too.

Like I absolutely loved what Sophie T said on the podcast when she came on last year and she spoke about the cost of embarrassment that really struck a chord with me.

I'm just going to put that clip in here because I think it's really important.