Grace Beverley

Like I have certain friends who are going to think, oh yeah,

no that might work and other friends who are going to be like yeah go on why not try it it's about understanding that the panel is first of all friendlier than you think it's going to be and also it's opinions you respect people you would go to for advice because you shouldn't be taking feedback really from people you wouldn't go to for advice and i've

found that when you shrink the audience you really shrink the fear because when all you have to worry about is what people who love you think or people who you respect think you are much more likely to believe in yourself and just do it and I would really really recommend you having on that panel as I say someone you respect like not necessarily just your closest people like if you look up to someone if you think like this businesswoman is who I want to be

whoever it is in your field who's doing particularly well and you would like to be them, put them on your panel.

Like what do you think they would think in any of these scenarios?

Chances are if they've got to where they wanted to get to, they've had to do a hell of a lot of things that actually didn't work and putting them on your panel so that they can encourage that type of thinking when maybe you might be surrounded by people who think a little bit smaller is very useful too.

Like I absolutely loved what Sophie T said on the podcast when she came on last year and she spoke about the cost of embarrassment that really struck a chord with me.

I'm just going to put that clip in here because I think it's really important.

And like, as we were saying before, it does feel like the real risk is not following the path that you think is made for you because you're worried about other people.

Because at the end of the day, it doesn't affect them.

And I think this with my career a lot too, just because when I was starting on Instagram, it was so embarrassing because it just was like so far from like what people were doing.

There have been so many things I've done since that feel embarrassing.

Like sometimes when I'm posting, I'm like, yeah, there are people from school who follow me.

I'm just like, oh, they're supposed to be like, oh, that's nice.

And I just, I don't know, if you spend any more time thinking about those people, you're spending less time thinking about yourself and your own trajectory, which sounds like narcissistic.

But it's kind of like, okay, well, if this is me making a decision for me in my life and my trajectory and my career, surely what it does for me is the important question, not what other people think of it.

And I just think there have been so many people who've come on this podcast and be like, I did this one random thing or this one really embarrassing thing and that's what led to XYZ.

And fear is just holding so many of us back from them.

yeah god it's so cringy isn't it no but like I feel like everything worth doing is on the other side of doing something difficult or cringe or that's gonna make you feel like oh I'm gonna make you nervous like whatever it might be yeah and I feel like too many people are held back by the fear of being perceived and it's like you're gonna be perceived anyway and you might end up being perceived as someone who's done nothing because you did nothing because you were so worried about like everyone's gonna think some shit anyway yeah

No matter what you do, no matter how palatable you try and be to everyone, there's going to be someone who thinks you're embarrassing.