Greg McKeown

That is the most important metabolism of our lives.

I write a journal every day.

I believe in this.

I'm not arguing that self-reflection has no place.

Nevertheless, I think that what must happen in order to address the loneliness, what I would call the understanding gap, to give a different name to it, is must happen between people.

And it's in that process that we will learn who we are.

And in some ways, there is not any reasonable alternative to that.

Because everywhere we go, there we are.

Everywhere we go, our thoughts are with us.

We are observing us.

This is not a great feedback loop.

In fact, we know that's true because rumination and thinking of self literally loads on the same axis as misery.

So we know that just thinking obsessively more and more, why do I think that?

How am I built?

What's going on?

An attempt to understand ourselves, an attempt to hack ourselves is actually not hacking, but attacking ourself.

And it's really not at all optimal.

So learning how to understand ourselves.

and be understood.

This is where I believe the big breakthroughs in healing the mattering crisis or the understanding gap lies.