Gretchen Rubin

Or it can be hard, even if you have friends, to keep up with friends because friends take time and energy. That's the truth of it. And so one of the things that I've written about many, many times in different ways is like, how might you do that? And like one thing I am a huge fan of is to join or start a group.

Um, because it takes a lot of, I feel like the scheduling of seeing friends is one of the major stumbling blocks. And so if it's a group, it's like, okay, if you can't make it this month, you'll, you'll do it next month. Um, a lot of time.

Um, because it takes a lot of, I feel like the scheduling of seeing friends is one of the major stumbling blocks. And so if it's a group, it's like, okay, if you can't make it this month, you'll, you'll do it next month. Um, a lot of time.

Um, because it takes a lot of, I feel like the scheduling of seeing friends is one of the major stumbling blocks. And so if it's a group, it's like, okay, if you can't make it this month, you'll, you'll do it next month. Um, a lot of time.

And then one of my secrets of adulthood, which is also research back, which is one of the best ways to make friends is to make friends with the friends of your friends. And believe me, there is no more elegant way to say that. I have tried. But this is true. It's called triadic closure.

And then one of my secrets of adulthood, which is also research back, which is one of the best ways to make friends is to make friends with the friends of your friends. And believe me, there is no more elegant way to say that. I have tried. But this is true. It's called triadic closure.

And then one of my secrets of adulthood, which is also research back, which is one of the best ways to make friends is to make friends with the friends of your friends. And believe me, there is no more elegant way to say that. I have tried. But this is true. It's called triadic closure.

And so if you're trying to make friends, the best way to make friends is to make friends with the friends of your friends. And often if you start a group, whether it's like a birdwatching group or a book group or like a neighborhood club or a mahjong group or whatever it is, that's a good way to make friends.

And so if you're trying to make friends, the best way to make friends is to make friends with the friends of your friends. And often if you start a group, whether it's like a birdwatching group or a book group or like a neighborhood club or a mahjong group or whatever it is, that's a good way to make friends.

And so if you're trying to make friends, the best way to make friends is to make friends with the friends of your friends. And often if you start a group, whether it's like a birdwatching group or a book group or like a neighborhood club or a mahjong group or whatever it is, that's a good way to make friends.

And there's research showing that density matters, that you're better off having a group of people who are interconnected than having a lot of one-off friends. You get more of a feeling of belonging, and there's greater cohesion.

And there's research showing that density matters, that you're better off having a group of people who are interconnected than having a lot of one-off friends. You get more of a feeling of belonging, and there's greater cohesion.

And there's research showing that density matters, that you're better off having a group of people who are interconnected than having a lot of one-off friends. You get more of a feeling of belonging, and there's greater cohesion.

And so instead of chasing down this person, this person, this person, which can be very time consuming and burdensome, you really are better off trying to form an interconnected group. But one of the things, now I'm just going on, this is just a sidebar on happiness.

And so instead of chasing down this person, this person, this person, which can be very time consuming and burdensome, you really are better off trying to form an interconnected group. But one of the things, now I'm just going on, this is just a sidebar on happiness.

And so instead of chasing down this person, this person, this person, which can be very time consuming and burdensome, you really are better off trying to form an interconnected group. But one of the things, now I'm just going on, this is just a sidebar on happiness.

So I'm writing this book, Project Empty Nest, which is going to be all about what I think is a forced reckoning in adulthood, which is if you're a parent. And one of the very poignant things that I've found is that many people think they have friends. They're like, I've been hanging out with these people for years. We're in a group text that's firing all the time.

So I'm writing this book, Project Empty Nest, which is going to be all about what I think is a forced reckoning in adulthood, which is if you're a parent. And one of the very poignant things that I've found is that many people think they have friends. They're like, I've been hanging out with these people for years. We're in a group text that's firing all the time.

So I'm writing this book, Project Empty Nest, which is going to be all about what I think is a forced reckoning in adulthood, which is if you're a parent. And one of the very poignant things that I've found is that many people think they have friends. They're like, I've been hanging out with these people for years. We're in a group text that's firing all the time.

I'm so happy to see them when I show up at the soccer game. We're making plans all the time. But they're not friends. They're friendly acquaintances who are connected by something related to their children. And when the children go away off to college, The soccer group falls apart. The performance group falls apart. There's nothing holding those friends together.