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Hannah Gadsby

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
306 total appearances

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We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

And one of the really interesting ones for me is touch because it's overwhelming for me. And in a lesbian relationship, that what? How are you supposed to do that? It's all about the touch, isn't it? Oh, touchy-feely. I'm like, oh, do we have to talk about our feelings again? Yes. Like just a light touch. Like that's a universal standard, isn't it, for like, you know, intimacy.

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

It's like just a nice soft touch. And I flinch, you know, because that is a really horrible sensation for me. But not knowing that, people take that as rejection. It's like, oh, you find me repulsive. No, just that touch. Generally, lovely. But it's really hard to communicate that when you don't know. Even when I did know I struggled for a while because it seems simple. It doesn't seem like much.

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

It's like just a nice soft touch. And I flinch, you know, because that is a really horrible sensation for me. But not knowing that, people take that as rejection. It's like, oh, you find me repulsive. No, just that touch. Generally, lovely. But it's really hard to communicate that when you don't know. Even when I did know I struggled for a while because it seems simple. It doesn't seem like much.

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

It's like just a nice soft touch. And I flinch, you know, because that is a really horrible sensation for me. But not knowing that, people take that as rejection. It's like, oh, you find me repulsive. No, just that touch. Generally, lovely. But it's really hard to communicate that when you don't know. Even when I did know I struggled for a while because it seems simple. It doesn't seem like much.

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

It's like, you know, if people kept not touching me with a firm touch and just a light touch, I kept flinching, kept flinching. It builds up and it just doesn't. It's a really easy fix, but the other person has to want to believe that I don't like a light touch. I don't know if I'm answering your question. You are.

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

It's like, you know, if people kept not touching me with a firm touch and just a light touch, I kept flinching, kept flinching. It builds up and it just doesn't. It's a really easy fix, but the other person has to want to believe that I don't like a light touch. I don't know if I'm answering your question. You are.

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

It's like, you know, if people kept not touching me with a firm touch and just a light touch, I kept flinching, kept flinching. It builds up and it just doesn't. It's a really easy fix, but the other person has to want to believe that I don't like a light touch. I don't know if I'm answering your question. You are.

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

Oh, all the time. And I do it to myself before I was diagnosed, too. Because I'm a problem solver. I have a problem solver's brain. So this is a problem. I want to fix it. And then so I experiment with fixing it. And this is like this ends up. I've had so many major depressive episodes. It's almost funny again.

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

Oh, all the time. And I do it to myself before I was diagnosed, too. Because I'm a problem solver. I have a problem solver's brain. So this is a problem. I want to fix it. And then so I experiment with fixing it. And this is like this ends up. I've had so many major depressive episodes. It's almost funny again.

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

Oh, all the time. And I do it to myself before I was diagnosed, too. Because I'm a problem solver. I have a problem solver's brain. So this is a problem. I want to fix it. And then so I experiment with fixing it. And this is like this ends up. I've had so many major depressive episodes. It's almost funny again.

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

Um, because it's that, that overwhelm of putting yourself into these sort of situations that are overwhelming and, um, detrimental to your central nervous system. And then you just can't cope. And then it's like broadcast out.

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

Um, because it's that, that overwhelm of putting yourself into these sort of situations that are overwhelming and, um, detrimental to your central nervous system. And then you just can't cope. And then it's like broadcast out.

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

Um, because it's that, that overwhelm of putting yourself into these sort of situations that are overwhelming and, um, detrimental to your central nervous system. And then you just can't cope. And then it's like broadcast out.

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

Um, and I will say this, Abby, like, you know, do, if you feel like there's something that I'm saying that is connecting to you and I'm being speaking very vague and, and, uh, and specific terms here. And it is a very complicated thing. But do get yourself checked out because if you are, it'll be a game changer.

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

Um, and I will say this, Abby, like, you know, do, if you feel like there's something that I'm saying that is connecting to you and I'm being speaking very vague and, and, uh, and specific terms here. And it is a very complicated thing. But do get yourself checked out because if you are, it'll be a game changer.

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

Um, and I will say this, Abby, like, you know, do, if you feel like there's something that I'm saying that is connecting to you and I'm being speaking very vague and, and, uh, and specific terms here. And it is a very complicated thing. But do get yourself checked out because if you are, it'll be a game changer.

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

And I will also say this, there is a very large crossover between autism and gender ambivalence. We'll call it ambivalence. I'm going to call it gender ambivalence. I love it. You know, because, you know, left to my own devices, like whatever, but people, neurotypicals demand that. That, like, front on, like, what are you?

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

And I will also say this, there is a very large crossover between autism and gender ambivalence. We'll call it ambivalence. I'm going to call it gender ambivalence. I love it. You know, because, you know, left to my own devices, like whatever, but people, neurotypicals demand that. That, like, front on, like, what are you?

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

And I will also say this, there is a very large crossover between autism and gender ambivalence. We'll call it ambivalence. I'm going to call it gender ambivalence. I love it. You know, because, you know, left to my own devices, like whatever, but people, neurotypicals demand that. That, like, front on, like, what are you?

We Can Do Hard Things
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better (Best Of)

But inside of me, it's just like, well, it's just coming out how it's coming out, isn't it? Like, you need to deal with your feelings on this. But there are a lot of non-binary folk, trans folk, genderqueer folk on the spectrum because I think there's something about the gender binary that does not make sense. Yes. If it's illogical, it is what is important, not what is interesting.