Harley Finkelstein

He's not what I would call a marriage or relationship mentor.

He's on his third marriage now.

And he's happily married now, but he's on his third marriage.

If you try to cargo cult everything about one particular person, you're going to adopt all their good stuff and all their bad stuff.

Instead, it's much easier to figure out what are the couple things I want to get good at.

Entrepreneurship, being a great dad, being a great philanthropist, a great DJ.

I want to be a great tea entrepreneur.

And then looking at who's really good at that and ask them specifically to help you with that narrow category as opposed to being a lot more broad.

The other thing that happens is that there's a timeliness to these mentors, meaning someone that was your mentor.

I don't know if you've ever had any business coaches or any coaches in your life.

So I think I have a great coach in my life right now.

It's probably my third or fourth coach that I've had.

One of the things I think about coaching business coaches in particular is.

At some point, you end up hearing a lot of the same stories or lessons or tools, meaning they have this wonderful toolbox.

And part of what you're paying them to be your coach is for them to open their toolbox and show you all their tools and you can adopt some of them for yourself.

But eventually, you've seen the entire toolbox.

And that's a really good time.

And it's not a negative thing.

It's not a criticism.

It's a really good time to sort of move on to the next coach.