Helen Lewis

It's funny you say that because it made me think that none of these things are the things that I love about men.

You know, I'm someone who's always had loads of male friends.

I'm very happily married for a decade.

And some of the things I love about men are, for example, their ability to become completely nerdily obsessed with very stupid things.

You know, just like that, like level of intensity of focus.

You know, I absolutely love my dad's terrible jokes that have passed into family law that we all repeat back to him.

You know, there are just so many different models of masculinity that are just, I think the word I would put is comfortable.

You know, that idea of the great thing that you become a dad or you follow your interests and you become comfortable with the person you are and you just radiate that.

Maybe, you know, maybe you are a bit weird.

Maybe you're into model trains, whatever it might be.

That's all good.

You know, you'd like to read a lot of books about the Second World War.

All of these things are very true of many of my friends.

You know, just I was just having a conversation about it with somebody who said, oh, yeah, no, my friend's boyfriend got really into all this stuff.

And of course, they're not together anymore, right?

So women don't want to be with anxious, controlling men.

And as a result of the fact that they can earn their own wages and we have divorce, they don't have to be.

So you have to find some way in which they have to put up with it.

But, you know, I just think if you really want a successful relationship with a woman, probably looks maxing is less good than being thoughtful, sending a gift occasionally, like,

I think if you ask, I mean, I'm speaking on behalf of all women here, always a good idea.