Hester Grainger

Is he?

He'd love that.

See, that's body doubling as well, isn't it?

Which we'll probably talk about in a bit.

I was just about to say, do you invite your delivery person in?

come and look at my sitting room um yeah I know what you mean though there is that there is that thing isn't there where actually you open the front door and sometimes depending how you know big or small your hall is you can see the mess I can you know you can see all the coats hanging on the banister or whatever so anything like that works but also I mean we might as well talk about body doubling now because that just made me think of it with a delivery driver but actually having someone

with you might be a friend family member they don't have to actually do it and i used to do this with the kids when they were younger they were like old enough to tidy and to tidy their room and

but actually they would just be a bit bored and kind of go off task and so I would just sit on the bed I used to do this for my son and I would just sit on his bed while he tidied and not that I wouldn't help him or couldn't help him but actually he could do it he'd just get a bit bored and even now sometimes I'll say to him if he's not doing anything can you just come with me like I've just got loads of random bits to do around the house and I just will you just come with me and he'll just come up and down the stairs I'm delivering the washing I'm doing it's just like a buddy you

just having someone that keeps you on track so that i'm not then you know the worst thing you can do if you've got adhd is sit down i can almost be like i'm gonna no don't sit down don't do not sit down because you know you're never getting up again and it's just someone to keep you on track but body doubling or maybe with your delivery driver maybe that's a cheaper way to do it or maybe the fact that that's just a sign that i don't have any friends or buddies to call up so i have to fake one maybe you could be like don't bring me a nando's just come around for a couple of hours and hang out this is all we need

If I'm honest, there is some kind of neuroscience that I'm not amazing with.

But I think it's the fact that it's someone there to keep you on track.

Does that make sense?

Why did it?

So I've been with my husband for 24 years now.

We've been married for 18.

And neither of us knew we were neurodivergent.

Mm-hmm.

But I would say to him, I've got some really boring emails to do.

Like I've got whatever it is.

It can be life admin.