Host (Ten Minute Halacha)

Should I say Shechianu when I light Shabbos candles?

I said, your father's a rabbi, I wanted to ask him.

But she did, and he said no, that you don't say Shechianu when you light Shabbos candles.

Now, one of the reasons for this minute of having a Talos, so one of the reasons is that some of the Rishonim say,

The Talos itself is the definition of Chuppah.

This is the Shita of the Baal Ha'itur, not the Baal Ha'itur himself, but the Baal Ha'itur quotes such a Shita.

Meaning it's very funny, not like ha-ha funny, but it's strange.

that in the first Mishnah in Kiddushin, the Mishnah tells you exactly how to do Kiddushin, how to do Eresin.

Nowhere, not in the Mishnah, nor in Shas, does it ever tell you how to do Nisuin.

And everyone agrees, you're not allowed to take her home until you do Nisuin.

And nowhere does it say how to do Nisuin.

So it opens up this huge discussion in the Rishonim.

What is nisuin?

Is it the brachos?

Is it a talus?

Is it a canopy?

Is it going into a yichud room?

Is it the badekin?

What exactly is the nisuin?

So the Ramar writes in Avon Ezer Simmon,