Host (Ten Minute Halacha)

Even if the way they did Kiddushin was with Bia, which is not the Yeshivish thing to do, we don't do that anymore.

But even if they did Kiddushin in that way, they're still not allowed to go home together until he does a Nisuin.

And what is Nisuin?

So the Ramah first says, he brings her into his house and they have Yichod together.

That's what we call chuppah.

That's what we call nisuin.

That's what the Mechaber says.

Then the Ramah writes, No, chuppah is not yichud.

By the way, just in case chuppah is yichud, as Schechter often points out, that they should go straight from the chuppah right to the yichud room.

There shouldn't be too much of a delay between the chuppah and the yichud room because all the brachas that they just set onto the chuppah

are brachos on the nisuin.

So you don't want to say a brachos on the nisuin, dance for a half hour, and then do the nisuin.

That's a huge hafzik.

So that's what Avshakta always says, that they should run.

They should run as quickly as they could to the ikhrum.

No one ever does that, but I was at one wedding.

Rabbi Michael Fagan, he spoke here one night, said his wedding, he's a bigger Avshakta Talmud, while they were singing Emesh K'chei, he grabbed the swastika and ran to the ikhrum.

By the time we finished, no one knew where they were.

They were already at the Yichud room because he was such a Talmud Rebbe Shechter.

He didn't want to have any hefzik whatsoever between the brachos and the Yichud room.