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So dafka, at the time of a wedding, we want them to have this symbolism of mitzvot.

The manig in Hilch HaSei Yisro Nisun has a third explanation.

He says that the talus is put over the chasen kala to create as private a moment as possible.

That in general, you open yourself up to ayin hara when you live too public a life, particularly when you're sitting, we're learning about this in Davyomi now, but particularly when

when your successes are on full display, where everybody's going to see your success.

That's why the Navi tells us, that a person is supposed to walk modestly with God, which means that you go in such a way that regardless of how much success you have, you try not to flaunt that and to show it to everybody else.

That opens up Tain Hara.

So here they are, this lovely young couple that are having this great moment together.

So they sort of hide it a little bit by going under this talus,

together that's probably the basis for the practice you know different people face in different directions at a wedding sometimes the chasen and kala face the crowd because all these people came to this wedding at least they should be able to see the wedding they should be able to see the chasen and kala at least when they look up from their cell phones they should be able to see the chasen and kala other people have a minhag that they face davka away from the crowd

Why?

Why would they face... That's not polite.

Everyone came to see.

But maybe it's part of this idea that they're trying to have a private moment that should be a little bit more bitsneos.

They face away from the guard.

If Schechter happens to be in Macbeth, the Hassan Qala should face Mizrach, regardless of where that is.

So he'll put them at, like, a weird angle.

Like, in the Marina, Marina del Rey, he'll always say, okay, face, like, that way.

Like, it's off to the side.

At least just for the Everson, he insists on that.