Ilana Redstone

I think you're right. I think it is human nature. I think that ultimately I'm asking people to do something that does go against arguably human nature, it feels good to be morally outraged. It feels good to be righteously indignant. I'm trying to help people understand that this has implications for our political conversation, for political polarization, for how we get along, for social trust.

We can then make choices about how we want to move forward. I think we're better off doing that once we understand what those choices imply.

We can then make choices about how we want to move forward. I think we're better off doing that once we understand what those choices imply.

We can then make choices about how we want to move forward. I think we're better off doing that once we understand what those choices imply.

I think it's a great example. And so this is the distinction between the certainty and the trap. So the problem that I'm trying to solve for is really viewing people who disagree with contempt. So if you're, as you're describing with respect to abortion, live and let live, I have my position, you have yours, then that's not necessarily a problem of contempt. I can give you a different example.

I think it's a great example. And so this is the distinction between the certainty and the trap. So the problem that I'm trying to solve for is really viewing people who disagree with contempt. So if you're, as you're describing with respect to abortion, live and let live, I have my position, you have yours, then that's not necessarily a problem of contempt. I can give you a different example.

I think it's a great example. And so this is the distinction between the certainty and the trap. So the problem that I'm trying to solve for is really viewing people who disagree with contempt. So if you're, as you're describing with respect to abortion, live and let live, I have my position, you have yours, then that's not necessarily a problem of contempt. I can give you a different example.

Let's say I'm pro-choice and I'm viewing someone who is, depending on how I want to phrase it, they are pro-life or anti-choice. And let's say that instead of kind of thinking, well, I have this opinion, you have that opinion, and we're on different sides of this. I now think that you're a misogynist who is trying to

Let's say I'm pro-choice and I'm viewing someone who is, depending on how I want to phrase it, they are pro-life or anti-choice. And let's say that instead of kind of thinking, well, I have this opinion, you have that opinion, and we're on different sides of this. I now think that you're a misogynist who is trying to

Let's say I'm pro-choice and I'm viewing someone who is, depending on how I want to phrase it, they are pro-life or anti-choice. And let's say that instead of kind of thinking, well, I have this opinion, you have that opinion, and we're on different sides of this. I now think that you're a misogynist who is trying to

control my body right that's a different that's a different way of coming at that topic where i'm making assumptions about someone's intent their motives etc rather than sort of the first scenario which you described, which is I have my opinion and you have yours. And the certainty trap, what I'm saying in the certainty trap is not necessarily that our assumptions are wrong.

control my body right that's a different that's a different way of coming at that topic where i'm making assumptions about someone's intent their motives etc rather than sort of the first scenario which you described, which is I have my opinion and you have yours. And the certainty trap, what I'm saying in the certainty trap is not necessarily that our assumptions are wrong.

control my body right that's a different that's a different way of coming at that topic where i'm making assumptions about someone's intent their motives etc rather than sort of the first scenario which you described, which is I have my opinion and you have yours. And the certainty trap, what I'm saying in the certainty trap is not necessarily that our assumptions are wrong.

I don't have a crystal ball that tells me what's going on inside someone's mind, but it's telling me, it should be telling us to be willing to stop and question everything the assumptions that we're making and ask ourselves, could we be wrong and what would it mean if we were?

I don't have a crystal ball that tells me what's going on inside someone's mind, but it's telling me, it should be telling us to be willing to stop and question everything the assumptions that we're making and ask ourselves, could we be wrong and what would it mean if we were?

I don't have a crystal ball that tells me what's going on inside someone's mind, but it's telling me, it should be telling us to be willing to stop and question everything the assumptions that we're making and ask ourselves, could we be wrong and what would it mean if we were?

It is that. It's that as well. And so and I'll give you an example sort of just from where that what that can look like. So when I was having a conversation just a couple of weeks ago with a friend of mine who was in an argument with her husband and the argument was about they were it started out about just a difference of opinion and parenting styles.

It is that. It's that as well. And so and I'll give you an example sort of just from where that what that can look like. So when I was having a conversation just a couple of weeks ago with a friend of mine who was in an argument with her husband and the argument was about they were it started out about just a difference of opinion and parenting styles.

It is that. It's that as well. And so and I'll give you an example sort of just from where that what that can look like. So when I was having a conversation just a couple of weeks ago with a friend of mine who was in an argument with her husband and the argument was about they were it started out about just a difference of opinion and parenting styles.

Anyway, it ended up getting to be a fairly heated argument and to the point where he had he was planning to cancel a guy's weekend trip that was coming up. And he felt that she should cancel a work trip that was the following weekend. Basically, they should focus on the marriage, etc. As she's telling me this, and I'm listening to her, my first thought is, wow, that feels really unfair.