Iris Mauss

You don't try to control them.

You don't spring into action, right?

So it sounds incredibly easy, and yet we have a really, really hard time doing that.

Even I myself, I've seen the benefits so often.

I still, my first instinct is often to, ooh, bad, make it go away quick.

And I think the underlying...

Belief is that I'm going to get overwhelmed by it.

And so I need to clamp down on it quickly.

So I think it's a really deeply ingrained belief that many of us have.

And it explains why we don't naturally embrace acceptance.

We don't do it all the time.

I think one overall recommendation is to have an accepting mindset for both our negative and our positive emotions.

Don't monitor as much.

Don't try to avoid.

Don't try to strive too much for something else.

One way to think about this is that it kind of replaces a mindset of I need to be with a mindset of I prefer.

So I think we can still...

Have preferences.

The problems come in where we tell ourselves, I must feel a certain way or else I can't have a good life.

That's, I think, what we need to avoid.