Jacqueline Newman

You know, and it becomes very personal about her.

I said, if they know from the beginning, this is what our family does.

It has nothing to do with whomever you marry.

And then they can communicate that to whoever they're dating.

The surprise shouldn't be there.

I mean, that's what should happen.

Does that happen?

Not always.

But that is definitely the advice I give people.

So I learned so much.

I mean, every day I'm learning about people learning about a million different things.

So what does it taught me about the unity of marriage?

I think that's, I think the image of marriage has changed significantly throughout the years of my practice.

I can say that with more women in the workforce, with more women in dependents,

You know, just so many different things, the dynamics changing, especially I would say after COVID, you know, one of, if you were to, I'm going to be stereotypical for a moment, if you were to stay at home mom who didn't want to give any access to the father for custody because he said, well, you know, he doesn't know what Cindy's favorite crayon is and he doesn't know how she likes her sandwiches cut.

And then when COVID hit and you were in a situation where dads were home and they saw they were able to figure out what the favorite crayon was and they had to cut the sandwiches the way they had to be cut, it changed everything.

And so it really shifted, I think, the way that fathers became involved.

And I think it shifted just so much of the dynamics that existed previously.

And I think that shifted roles in marriages.

And so it really, you know, on some level, some marriages got incredibly strengthened.