Jacqueline Newman

So, I mean, when people think about divorce, obviously, you know, people think about pain, they think about hurt, they think about, you know, all the emotions that are tied into divorce and they all are there, you know, anger, everything.

However, you know, what I often say to my clients is I, you know, I absolutely validate and acknowledge the pain that they're in.

But I also say emotion has to be put to the side to some degree, not to say that it doesn't play any role, but it can't play the primary role.

And so to me, it's very, very important to be strategic.

emotionally strategic, psychologically strategic, financially strategic.

Divorce can really take a life of its own, as you can imagine, especially when you're in the court system.

To me, I really ask people to step back and let's be smart about when we're aggressive, when we're more passive.

Let's be smart about the things we bring up.

Not every issue has to be brought up, even though it may feel to that person that it's so important.

I've been doing this for a long time.

I know what things

that are gonna resonate with the court and what isn't.

And so people really need to trust that the court isn't gonna care about certain things that are super important to you, but it's not gonna be important to that judge.

Yeah, so one of the big ones is, and I hate to say it because it is so hurtful, but affairs.

Courts will not give, they don't, they're just not interested in people having affairs unless there's money spent

it's just not going to be a topic that's really going to get addressed.

And so when I have clients that come to me that have collected all the evidence that are so incredibly distraught and hurt and angry and have amazing, amazing amounts of emotions, understandably that their spouse has been cheating on them for me to be able to say to them, listen, I hear everything you're saying, and I know you've been collecting and you're so ready to present your case.

And, but unfortunately a judge is just not going to be interested and they're not going to

They're not going to be angry the way you are.

And to be honest, we're probably going to get shut down.