Jacqueline Newman

Some may be on financial issues where people expected maybe somebody to work and they choose not to.

Or you have somebody that, you know, may not be earning the same way that they were at one point or whatever it is.

And so, again, if you can't communicate effectively about your failed expectations, that definitely does also bring you down.

And then I would say the third one, and this probably ties a little bit into it, is, you know, people, you know, I was thinking like more affairs and things like that.

But I really think that that almost kind of happens partially because of failed expectations and because of communication.

I think it's more of a, you know, a result of something rather than probably a cause.

So I would say that those are probably the things.

But also, you know, people just not being on the same page and outgrowing each other.

I think you see that a lot, too.

When there are young children, people are in the business of raising children and they kind of lose themselves as a couple.

And then, you know, the kids go off to college and they look at each other like, so what have you been doing the last 18 years?

I think there's just a complete, you know, people just lose each other and they don't grow together.

And I think that is another reason why people get divorced.

I think it is the most important thing.

I think emotional intelligence is, you know, I mean, that's really what it comes down to.

And so, you know, even in my hiring, I will tell you, you know, when I hire other attorneys in my office, I, you know,

I laugh about it, but I barely look at a resume when I first interview someone.

My basic rule is, would I want to go to lunch with you?

Would I enjoy you?

And would you annoy me?