Jade Warshaw

Yeah, this is good for your marriage.

Whenever you can lock arms, whenever you can band together and gang up against the thing that's trying to horn in on your marriage, your life, your relationship, your dreams for each other, that is so solidifying.

And what you get the opportunity to prove to each other is I can count on you and you can count on me.

If Sam says he's going to do it, he does it.

If Jade says she's going to do it, she does it.

That is the best thing.

It builds trust and security in your marriage and wealth.

Okay, today's question comes from Brooke in Alabama.

My husband and I are on baby step two with about 50,000 in debt.

We are also in stork mode, meaning they have a baby on the way.

I love that my husband has a generous heart, but we always go over budget with tithing and gift giving and never make progress paying off debt.

I suggested that we buy smaller gifts for now so that we can be more generous in the future, but he won't consider doing this.

Am I being stingy or is he being too generous for our means?

Okay, so I want to start by differentiating between the tithing and the gift giving.

So if you're a tither, that means that...

you're a Christian person and you have the belief of giving 10% of your earnings to a local church.

And it sounds like they have that belief.

So I'm going to decouple that from the gift giving, because if that's a, uh,

religious value or conviction that you have, that needs to be part of your budget, I would say, whether you are in baby step two or not.

So for most of us, myself included, even when we are in baby step two, tithe is at the top of the list.