Jade Warshaw

You're starting to feel that, which is why you suggested, hey, let's put the money together.

That's thing one.

Thing two, I want to mention because it's just the truth.

And it's, again, it's not to...

promote fear or shame or anything like that.

But when people want to hide, it's generally because they have something to hide.

Most people, part of the purpose of entering marriage is you want to be known.

You want somebody to see you and know you and get to accept all the facets of you.

And this person is hiding something that they don't want you to see because they're either ashamed of it, they don't think you'll accept it.

Do you see what I'm saying?

So that's what I'm hearing.

I'm not a counselor nor a therapist.

I'm just a person who's been in a relationship with the same guy for almost 20 years.

So...

I would really dig into that and I would really do it out of love, not out of I'm angry at you or I'm pointing the finger at you.

But man, I love you and I chose you for a reason.

And I just feel like there's something here that's between us that's

between us it's it's it's causing a rift and i don't like that and i would love to get to the point where we know each other and we have nothing to hide and if we have to see a counselor to make that happen i'm all in with this right approach it from love and see what happens okay now we can get to the numbers

Yeah.

Don't do it in the heat of an argument.