James Cordova

Oh, yeah, I'm not an idiot.

I can tell like something happened.

And it's interesting because like my instinct is still to see if I can maintain the momentum.

Right.

So, oh, we're having a good time.

We're feeling jokey with each other and something happened.

But maybe I can just like keep going with the playfulness and it'll just wash away.

And, you know, that just as it turns out, doesn't usually work.

So like, I've tried to like, uh, explain where I'm coming from.

Like, this is just by way of being affectionate and it's playful and like, you know, she's obviously knows my friends and my family and, and has seen that play out between, between other folks.

And, um, and I mean, she gets it, but it just doesn't work for her.

Right.

So I've tried to like help her, uh, understand it from my perspective.

Um,

which has just gone over like a lead balloon.

So, you know, in this particular couple, the, the, the wife felt like quite deeply that her husband was withholding from her, right.

That she wanted to be able to know what he was feeling, have him, um,

talked to her about his wants and needs and his ups and downs.

And he was just very much a stoic, you know, very, you know, almost monosyllabic, right?

You know, clearly loved her, but his love language was acts of service, not necessarily talking about his feelings.