James Kimmel, Jr.

husband, wife, or otherwise, spouses, in which there's a continuation of seeking to retaliate over and over again, despite the serious damage it's doing to their relationship, to their family, to their kids.

husband, wife, or otherwise, spouses, in which there's a continuation of seeking to retaliate over and over again, despite the serious damage it's doing to their relationship, to their family, to their kids.

Well, the first person who said, wow, that guy was a jerk, and then goes back to listening to their radio and driving normally, that person's in full control. He may or she may have fantasized a little bit for a while about all the deliciously cool things they'd like to do to that jerk, but they don't act on it. And they're safe and acting in the normally adaptive way.

Well, the first person who said, wow, that guy was a jerk, and then goes back to listening to their radio and driving normally, that person's in full control. He may or she may have fantasized a little bit for a while about all the deliciously cool things they'd like to do to that jerk, but they don't act on it. And they're safe and acting in the normally adaptive way.

Well, the first person who said, wow, that guy was a jerk, and then goes back to listening to their radio and driving normally, that person's in full control. He may or she may have fantasized a little bit for a while about all the deliciously cool things they'd like to do to that jerk, but they don't act on it. And they're safe and acting in the normally adaptive way.

But for many other people, maybe 20% of the population, they're going to escalate that, put themselves in harm's way, put other people in harm's way. And those people are struggling with a revenge addiction, which is, it feels good to retaliate, And just like any other addict who's an addict, you know, of alcohol, other narcotics, they're seeking that pleasure.

But for many other people, maybe 20% of the population, they're going to escalate that, put themselves in harm's way, put other people in harm's way. And those people are struggling with a revenge addiction, which is, it feels good to retaliate, And just like any other addict who's an addict, you know, of alcohol, other narcotics, they're seeking that pleasure.

But for many other people, maybe 20% of the population, they're going to escalate that, put themselves in harm's way, put other people in harm's way. And those people are struggling with a revenge addiction, which is, it feels good to retaliate, And just like any other addict who's an addict, you know, of alcohol, other narcotics, they're seeking that pleasure.

Yeah, and I'm glad you brought that up. So the pleasure that you get is very short-lived, just the way it is for drugs and alcohol. It might be minutes to an hour, but as you say, and studies have shown and backed up exactly what you just said, There are negative psychological consequences for Avengers, and they're always there. We always experience them.

Yeah, and I'm glad you brought that up. So the pleasure that you get is very short-lived, just the way it is for drugs and alcohol. It might be minutes to an hour, but as you say, and studies have shown and backed up exactly what you just said, There are negative psychological consequences for Avengers, and they're always there. We always experience them.

Yeah, and I'm glad you brought that up. So the pleasure that you get is very short-lived, just the way it is for drugs and alcohol. It might be minutes to an hour, but as you say, and studies have shown and backed up exactly what you just said, There are negative psychological consequences for Avengers, and they're always there. We always experience them.

And I try to explain that by imagining a hammer striking a nail. And we often think about, in that case, oh, poor nail, it's just been slugged by this hammer and driven into this board. But we don't think about the hammer. The hammer by physical law, had to experience the impact of that blow at just the same intensity as the nail. And that happens for us as human beings.

And I try to explain that by imagining a hammer striking a nail. And we often think about, in that case, oh, poor nail, it's just been slugged by this hammer and driven into this board. But we don't think about the hammer. The hammer by physical law, had to experience the impact of that blow at just the same intensity as the nail. And that happens for us as human beings.

And I try to explain that by imagining a hammer striking a nail. And we often think about, in that case, oh, poor nail, it's just been slugged by this hammer and driven into this board. But we don't think about the hammer. The hammer by physical law, had to experience the impact of that blow at just the same intensity as the nail. And that happens for us as human beings.

We cannot become the instrument of another person's pain, even a person who we think started it and started the pain cycle first. We can't become the instrument of their pain without experiencing the pain that we're trying to inflict. We always will experience that.

We cannot become the instrument of another person's pain, even a person who we think started it and started the pain cycle first. We can't become the instrument of their pain without experiencing the pain that we're trying to inflict. We always will experience that.

We cannot become the instrument of another person's pain, even a person who we think started it and started the pain cycle first. We can't become the instrument of their pain without experiencing the pain that we're trying to inflict. We always will experience that.

But we are willing to set it aside for that brief dopamine high that we get by retaliating against someone who we believe has wronged us.

But we are willing to set it aside for that brief dopamine high that we get by retaliating against someone who we believe has wronged us.

But we are willing to set it aside for that brief dopamine high that we get by retaliating against someone who we believe has wronged us.