James Kimmel, Jr.

to uh trying to understand what revenge is all about and violence a separate group of researchers were trying to understand what forgiveness is all about and found out some fascinating information which is that forgiveness just imagining what happens when you forget so let me put it this way if you have a grievance and you imagine forgiving it just imagine it you don't tell the other person that you're forgiving it

to uh trying to understand what revenge is all about and violence a separate group of researchers were trying to understand what forgiveness is all about and found out some fascinating information which is that forgiveness just imagining what happens when you forget so let me put it this way if you have a grievance and you imagine forgiving it just imagine it you don't tell the other person that you're forgiving it

inside your brain that shuts down that pain network that i talked about so it actually takes away the pain instead of covering it up the way revenge does with a little uh... short acting hit of dopamine it then takes away the uh... revenge cravings by deactivating

inside your brain that shuts down that pain network that i talked about so it actually takes away the pain instead of covering it up the way revenge does with a little uh... short acting hit of dopamine it then takes away the uh... revenge cravings by deactivating

inside your brain that shuts down that pain network that i talked about so it actually takes away the pain instead of covering it up the way revenge does with a little uh... short acting hit of dopamine it then takes away the uh... revenge cravings by deactivating

the pleasure and reward circuitry of addiction, and then finally it reactivates your prefrontal cortex so that you're able to exert self-control, weigh costs and benefits, and make good decisions. So forgiveness is actually a wonder drug that we didn't even know had all of these powers, and this neuroscience really supports the ancient forgiveness teachings of luminaries like Jesus and the Buddha.

the pleasure and reward circuitry of addiction, and then finally it reactivates your prefrontal cortex so that you're able to exert self-control, weigh costs and benefits, and make good decisions. So forgiveness is actually a wonder drug that we didn't even know had all of these powers, and this neuroscience really supports the ancient forgiveness teachings of luminaries like Jesus and the Buddha.

the pleasure and reward circuitry of addiction, and then finally it reactivates your prefrontal cortex so that you're able to exert self-control, weigh costs and benefits, and make good decisions. So forgiveness is actually a wonder drug that we didn't even know had all of these powers, and this neuroscience really supports the ancient forgiveness teachings of luminaries like Jesus and the Buddha.

Yeah. And you only have to imagine forgiving. So you can go, I don't want to forgive anybody. I can't believe this guy just did that. Maybe flipped a finger, almost killed you, almost knocked your car off the road. And you might go, I don't want to forgive. I don't. And I get that. And I really do. But if you choose to imagine, just imagine for a few seconds, how would you feel if you forgave it?

Yeah. And you only have to imagine forgiving. So you can go, I don't want to forgive anybody. I can't believe this guy just did that. Maybe flipped a finger, almost killed you, almost knocked your car off the road. And you might go, I don't want to forgive. I don't. And I get that. And I really do. But if you choose to imagine, just imagine for a few seconds, how would you feel if you forgave it?

Yeah. And you only have to imagine forgiving. So you can go, I don't want to forgive anybody. I can't believe this guy just did that. Maybe flipped a finger, almost killed you, almost knocked your car off the road. And you might go, I don't want to forgive. I don't. And I get that. And I really do. But if you choose to imagine, just imagine for a few seconds, how would you feel if you forgave it?

I haven't met a person yet who just imagined what it would feel like to forgive, who didn't say back to me, oh, how would I feel if I forgave? I'd feel relieved. I would feel like this weight is suddenly off my shoulders. I no longer have to go out, put myself in harm's way and try and harm them back because of what they did to me.

I haven't met a person yet who just imagined what it would feel like to forgive, who didn't say back to me, oh, how would I feel if I forgave? I'd feel relieved. I would feel like this weight is suddenly off my shoulders. I no longer have to go out, put myself in harm's way and try and harm them back because of what they did to me.

I haven't met a person yet who just imagined what it would feel like to forgive, who didn't say back to me, oh, how would I feel if I forgave? I'd feel relieved. I would feel like this weight is suddenly off my shoulders. I no longer have to go out, put myself in harm's way and try and harm them back because of what they did to me.

I can just, in other words, leave the pain of the past where it belongs in the past.

I can just, in other words, leave the pain of the past where it belongs in the past.

I can just, in other words, leave the pain of the past where it belongs in the past.

and i'm one of those people i mean i'm really angry when uh when i get cut off you know i'm shouting jerk and and maybe some other words that i want to say right now and that's not the part that that reaction of pain right because what we're perceiving at that moment is

and i'm one of those people i mean i'm really angry when uh when i get cut off you know i'm shouting jerk and and maybe some other words that i want to say right now and that's not the part that that reaction of pain right because what we're perceiving at that moment is

and i'm one of those people i mean i'm really angry when uh when i get cut off you know i'm shouting jerk and and maybe some other words that i want to say right now and that's not the part that that reaction of pain right because what we're perceiving at that moment is