James Sexton

It's the person who's supposed to be there to see your blind spots and be with you through celebrating the good things and be with you to give you support during the hard things.

And we give it the least thought, you know?

Because again, I think marriage gives us

the impression that this thing is locked down now.

So we don't have to, we don't have to worry about that anymore.

We got the, we're married.

You're here.

You got to stay here.

We're married.

You know, that's how it works.

And I think actually, it's a very human thing.

I think we,

We want to have control.

The illusion of control is so important.

Because there's so much out of our control, the world is terrifying.

And if you've realized how out of control so many things are, and bombs just fall out of the sky, I think you would realize, yeah, there's not much you can do.

You don't have that much control.

But I think marriage gives us the sense that, oh, no, I'm going to do this, and then this is safe.

It'll be safe.

And it's an illusion.