James Sexton

I was right.

He says, what do you mean?

He says, well, I wrote the Pope and I said, hey, is it okay to smoke while you're praying?

And he was like, no, when you're praying, like pray, pay attention to what you're doing.

He's like, well, I wrote him and I said, is it okay to pray while I'm smoking?

And he said, yeah, you should pray all the time, like pray whenever you can.

So I say that to say, how you ask the question very often dictates the answer.

So the question of why aren't we having sex as much as we used to?

You're off to a bad start.

you're off to a terrible start.

Like this is not a good negotiation.

This is an invitation to feel attacked and to be defensive.

That's what that is.

Because the way you've parsed this is you're failing me.

You're getting it wrong.

Whereas if the entry point was, I love feeling close to you.

Like one of my favorite things about, remember, you know what I was thinking about yesterday?

You remember when we were first dating and we went to that, we got tickets to that thing and we were staying in that hotel

And we never ended up going to the thing because we were just rolling around in the bed in the hotel.

You remember that?