James Sexton

Like, OK, and maybe now we're having a dialogue about this.

That's the negotiation.

Or she's going to go, oh, I would not be into that.

And you go, you know, I know.

Like, it's so like, like, I don't know what it was like that.

That was what I mean.

It's not that big of a deal to me.

Or at least we're having a conversation now.

about it.

But again, like the entry point is from a place of connection.

It's from a place of intrigue.

It's from a place of storytelling.

Like I'm hooking you, that's the cheese in that trap, right?

But like, again, all for the benefit of this relationship, like all for the benefit, because there's no downside to that.

Like to share with your partner what you want and what your desire and what you're feeling.

Like in a perfect world, you're absolutely right.

You'd just be able to say like, you know, babe, I've been having this thought lately.

And by the way, if you did what I said earlier,

where you built into your relationship these periodic check-ins.

You know, and again, like I don't like the idea, because I think there is like a measure what matters thing and people can reduce things to metrics and statistics a little too much.