James Sexton

And I thought, ooh.

You can be right or you can be happy.

I've said that before.

That idea is really interesting on two levels.

One, from an evolutionary standpoint, why doesn't it feel as good?

If there's a survival advantage to pair bonding, then why doesn't being connected to that person in the moment where you're arguing feel like a way more interesting goal than I'm gonna prove that I'm right?

Yeah.

The tension is I think people don't know what's expected of them anymore.

It's interesting.

So here's my pitch.

You tell me if you think this is crazy.

So this goes back to what you were saying at the beginning.

This is an exchange of value.

I think that value used to be very clear because the world was dangerous.

And my promise to you is I'm gonna keep you safe and provide resources.

And so women would pick the guy that was going to actually be successful at that.

And now the world has been safe since World War II, here in the West anyway.

And so people have begun to think that safety is just a law of nature.

And so it is what it is.

And so women are stepping into the workforce, girl boss, I don't need no man, like that whole attitude.