James Sexton

When I tell people it was a tattoo, they always get disappointed, but

uh for me it's the only tattoo i've ever gotten it's the only tattoo i will ever get and i specifically wanted to do something that i didn't want i did not want a tattoo i hated needles at the time not that i loved it i was going to say if you said you hated tattoos you and i are very very different but uh i certainly didn't want to do it but i wanted to go through something painful and i wanted a permanent reminder that i'm a different person now yeah

And having that psychology, going into it like that, going in saying, okay, listen, barring, you know, certain things.

Obviously, if my wife was unfaithful or was in some way cruel or abusive or whatever, in a way that crosses some line, then sure, I would not stay in a loveless marriage or anything like that.

But I wanted to make divorce like an absolute, like, that is, you're burning the whole thing down.

That is not the thing that you do to get rid of termites.

You don't decapitate to get rid of the dandruff.

Yeah.

This really, really, really needs to be something that we protect.

So that thinking in that way, sure, is more important than the act itself.

But there was something about

thinking like, okay, this, I need a transition.

I need something that demarcates my life before and after.

I want to treat this as something that's ceremonial.

Like all of those things led up to just walking into the marriage, the actual act of marriage in a way that was like, I am trying to cement something that's going to be forever.

And so when I think about

I think to sum up my thesis on why men and women are going wrong, where the problem lies with modern life in general, is that we're no longer living in accordance with the algorithms in our brain.

And because of that, like blank slate beliefs are like the biggest violation of the algorithms running in your brain.

Like anybody that is confused as to how different men and women are need only watch how Lisa interviewed you.

So she just recorded an interview with you before now.