James Sexton

Does it end with a happily ever after?

Does it end with a tremendous amount of confusion?

I think it creates a lot of confusion.

But I do think, again, if you get it right—

the stability and security that a pair bond brings, even without children.

Like, with children, of course, I think it takes multiple people and it takes, you know, a tremendous amount of energy.

I won't even call it masculine or feminine energy because I actually think it's human traits that tend to cluster in men or cluster in women for a variety of reasons.

But it takes the unique skill set of multiple people to raise children successfully.

And I think...

Marriage is a great opportunity to bond very closely with another person in raising, you know, new humans.

Or, even if you don't have children, in navigating the self and having someone there who genuinely sees your blind spots and calls them out with real love and helps you.

Again, when I gave my example earlier about what I hope on your deathbed you get to say...

It's not this person became who I wanted them to be.

It's I helped this person become the most authentic version of who they are, who they were.

And I think that is something we need other people to be able to do.

Given how high these marriage rates have gotten...

Every marriage has a prenup.

It's either one that was written by the state legislature or the state in which you reside and can be changed by them without your consent.

And then once they change it, you don't have the right to opt out anymore.

I mean, find me another contract.