James Sexton

And now we're just all convinced like we're doing it wrong or we're doing it right and the other person's doing it wrong no matter what.

And we're just so, like we're just inundated with criticism.

And again, the answer to that, the solution to that is love.

Like the solution to it is love.

Like I think the world is constantly attacking you and making you feel criticized.

Like having a cheerleader, having someone who's like in your corner, because you know, constructive criticism is still criticism.

Yeah, I've heard you talk about that, that like criticism is, yeah.

It's toxic.

It's toxic.

I'm not suggesting you should not hold your partner to standards.

And I think part of being a loving partner and loving someone is like seeing their blind spots and being willing to like brave enough to say to them like, hey, are you sure this is good, what you're doing right now?

Like, is that gonna help?

I know you think it is, but like, I love you.

I want you to thrive.

And I'm worried that this isn't gonna, like, I think there's value in it.

But man, like,

a lot of the beauty of love is like that connection, that feeling of like this person's cheering for me.

In a world that's constantly telling me I'm doing it wrong, this person likes the way I'm doing it.

And even when they're, I don't wanna say correcting me, but even when they're making me see something I didn't see that I might not want to have seen, they're doing it because they're cheering for me.

Like there's a difference between saying you're stupid