Jamie Kern Lima

Intention without attachment.

So for someone that says, oh, my dream was like I would feel better once I hit my goal weight or once I got the 2.5 kids or the white picket fence.

Or I remember after my first book, Believe It, came out and I got, it was like three or four months after the launch and I got a call from the publisher.

And they're like, we're just checking in to see how are you?

Like, how are you?

And I was like, what do you mean?

Like, I'm great.

I'm like, are you happy?

Like, you know, all the things, of course, you know, that they're like, no, no, no, the book's great.

Like the book, you know, because everyone's like, they're happy it's on New York Times.

They're happy it's selling, blah, blah, blah.

But they're like, how are you?

Yeah.

And I'm like, what do you mean?

They said, well...

A lot of times authors work so hard for so long.

You put five years into the meaning of your life or years into this work and then it comes out and they said sometimes the book launches like you're shot out of a cannon and then their authors go into big depression.

And I was like, oh, like astronauts, like Olympic athletes, but also...

And so many people I know have had these experiences where they think, well, once I get married, then everything's going to be fine.

Or once I get that promotion at work, or once I have this number in my bank account, then you arrive at it and you still feel like, oh, that didn't solve all my problems.