Jamie Lynn Byram

And, you know, thought she said, even said that she was going to, you know, spend them just into bankruptcy, which was far from the case.

I mean, they were, you know, A plus if I had to grade them as clients as far as reaching their goals.

But in his mind, you know, she was a spender and was going to cause them financial harm.

And

Another interesting piece of it, she was done with his behavior towards her spending and other things, and she was thinking about divorce.

So he thought the marriage was fine.

He had no understanding that there was an ounce of problem within the marriage.

And she'd already seen a divorce attorney.

So it was fascinating to me how you could have two people in the same marriage

who perceived one another so differently in not only financial satisfaction, but also marital satisfaction.

And so that started my path of figuring out, is this common?

Because sometimes when you see things, you think, well, this is how everyone does it, but then you have to realize that's just one couple.

Out of, you know, who knows how many.

And so I wanted to broaden it to see, is this really something or is it a one off?

Yes, yes.

It was all perception meant more than reality.

And the person's perception of their spouse meant more than their perception of themselves.

Because when I did the survey, I had people look, you know, complete

uh questions in their framework of looking at themselves but then also looking at their partner and um the perceptions of themselves we didn't show it nothing showed significant um but it was perceptions of the partner where the significance came in so with couples it's sort of like rules for thee not for me you're more worried about your partner spending and not yours

Exactly.