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Jan Jachimowicz

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
370 total appearances

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Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

I think the other thing that Leonard mentioned that I think is really helpful is that it can be helpful to differentiate how we pursue our passion and what we are passionate about.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And that over the course of our career, we can develop both.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

We can both develop how we pursue our passion.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

Maybe I'm passionate about one thing, but I'm going to try very many different ways of pursuing that thing.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And or I can pursue what it is that I'm passionate about.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

Maybe that can change.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

Maybe I have one passion, then another passion, then another passion.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

But I think approaching it with this sense of curiosity and a developmental mindset, at least based on the research, seems really helpful.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

I really like this way that Lynn did it by highlighting, here's the things I love.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And importantly, here are the red flags.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

Here's the things that I don't want.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

I think we often neglect those red flags.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And so I really like that exercise.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

I think there are a couple of things that I have found can be helpful.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And it's not just things that I've developed.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

This is trying on a lot of different research that people have done that I'm really grateful for that I can draw these tips on.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

I think one of the ways to think about this, and this is based on research by Akira Shabram and colleagues who focused on people who have taken sabbaticals in their life and how they have used those sabbaticals to different ends, is to not only think of sabbaticals as places to recover, but to also think of them as places to discover more about oneself and importantly to then also practice.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And I think it's this practice component that we often underestimate.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

I think a lot of people are very happy to do the kind of self-exploration that Linh talked about.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

But the second step is then to apply that and to experiment, to practice.