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Jan Jachimowicz

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370 total appearances

Appearances Over Time

Podcast Appearances

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

They're very long-term things that might take days, weeks, or even months and years to accomplish.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And for that, I think the question that we need to ask ourselves is not, how can I give my all today?

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

But what can I do today to make sure that I'm still as passionate tomorrow and the next day and the next day?

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

We find in one of our papers that on any given day, the more passionate people are, the longer they work, that's wonderful.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

But on the next day, they are more emotionally exhausted and that makes it harder for them to actually muster that passion again because we require those emotional resources to feel and experience that passion.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

day in day out.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

So perhaps a little counter-intuitively, on our most passionate days we should be most careful in how much of ourselves we give and perhaps even take a step back.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

Yeah, that's a great question.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

So one component of burnout is a lack of self-efficacy.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

A lack of self-efficacy means I don't really feel like what I'm doing today makes a difference anymore.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

I don't think I have the skills necessary to do that.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

I don't feel like I have any sense of control over what I'm doing.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And so it can feel really defeating when what I'm working on doesn't really seem like it's moving the needle anymore.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

The prescription there is not really taking any time off, but trying to figure out, can I work on other things where I could make a difference?

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

Or do I need to figure out how I can develop a better skill set that would actually allow me to make a difference?

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

That's one of the components of burnout.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

The second component of burnout is what I think people often think about when they think about burnout, which is emotional exhaustion.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

that is when people feel like their emotional tank is empty.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

They don't really have a lot in them anymore to feel a lot of emotions anymore.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And that can be both positive and negative affect.