Jane's Husband

The recipient was just an operating room away, so they took my left kidney from me and then went over to my recipient there. And I anticipated that sometime within the first year, probably one of three outcomes would happen. One is, and all of these communication is handled through the hospital, that they would reach out and there'd be kind of some connection.

The recipient was just an operating room away, so they took my left kidney from me and then went over to my recipient there. And I anticipated that sometime within the first year, probably one of three outcomes would happen. One is, and all of these communication is handled through the hospital, that they would reach out and there'd be kind of some connection.

You get to know the person, be able to kind of see the benefit of the donation and really make that connection. Or I figured there would just be kind of an anonymous note, which I get. If somebody received a kidney, they may just want to keep that degree of separation, but at least just just something that helps for me bring closure. What was the benefit of receiving it?

You get to know the person, be able to kind of see the benefit of the donation and really make that connection. Or I figured there would just be kind of an anonymous note, which I get. If somebody received a kidney, they may just want to keep that degree of separation, but at least just just something that helps for me bring closure. What was the benefit of receiving it?

You get to know the person, be able to kind of see the benefit of the donation and really make that connection. Or I figured there would just be kind of an anonymous note, which I get. If somebody received a kidney, they may just want to keep that degree of separation, but at least just just something that helps for me bring closure. What was the benefit of receiving it?

Oftentimes I'll hear, I have colleagues who've donated kidneys and the dialysis that their spouse didn't have to go to, for example, and just how a living kidney donation really benefited their life. The outcome that I wasn't expecting, although they prepare you for, is that you just hear nothing.

Oftentimes I'll hear, I have colleagues who've donated kidneys and the dialysis that their spouse didn't have to go to, for example, and just how a living kidney donation really benefited their life. The outcome that I wasn't expecting, although they prepare you for, is that you just hear nothing.

Oftentimes I'll hear, I have colleagues who've donated kidneys and the dialysis that their spouse didn't have to go to, for example, and just how a living kidney donation really benefited their life. The outcome that I wasn't expecting, although they prepare you for, is that you just hear nothing.

And that's the piece I'm struggling with, is I just anticipated some closure, maybe a card that just sits in a drawer that just sort of memorializes this. But it's never happened, and I'm trying to figure out how going forward I live with it. My story just feels just a little bit incomplete. There you go.

And that's the piece I'm struggling with, is I just anticipated some closure, maybe a card that just sits in a drawer that just sort of memorializes this. But it's never happened, and I'm trying to figure out how going forward I live with it. My story just feels just a little bit incomplete. There you go.

And that's the piece I'm struggling with, is I just anticipated some closure, maybe a card that just sits in a drawer that just sort of memorializes this. But it's never happened, and I'm trying to figure out how going forward I live with it. My story just feels just a little bit incomplete. There you go.

That I don't know. And honestly, that's the reason I'm reaching out to you because I'm hoping someone can put me in the place of what might be going through the recipients. I know, but you've concocted some story, right? Yeah, but the story I've concocted I hope is not accurate. Let it rip. Let it rip because there's some value in speaking it out.

That I don't know. And honestly, that's the reason I'm reaching out to you because I'm hoping someone can put me in the place of what might be going through the recipients. I know, but you've concocted some story, right? Yeah, but the story I've concocted I hope is not accurate. Let it rip. Let it rip because there's some value in speaking it out.

That I don't know. And honestly, that's the reason I'm reaching out to you because I'm hoping someone can put me in the place of what might be going through the recipients. I know, but you've concocted some story, right? Yeah, but the story I've concocted I hope is not accurate. Let it rip. Let it rip because there's some value in speaking it out.

Yeah, I don't want to believe that they just took it for granted, that they just treated it like, you know, we go to the blood bank and we give blood and we get our free cookies. And that's just more transactional. I would hope that they just don't take it for granted. And I have heard through kind of post follow up. There's obviously kind of rigid follow up once you give a donation.

Yeah, I don't want to believe that they just took it for granted, that they just treated it like, you know, we go to the blood bank and we give blood and we get our free cookies. And that's just more transactional. I would hope that they just don't take it for granted. And I have heard through kind of post follow up. There's obviously kind of rigid follow up once you give a donation.

Yeah, I don't want to believe that they just took it for granted, that they just treated it like, you know, we go to the blood bank and we give blood and we get our free cookies. And that's just more transactional. I would hope that they just don't take it for granted. And I have heard through kind of post follow up. There's obviously kind of rigid follow up once you give a donation.

I would hope that they're not taking it for granted. But that is my concern, that they just feel as if they've kind of received this gift and that they've given no thought to what it's like to be on the other side of that ledger, of being the person who donated. And that's my concern is, gosh, did I give my kidney to someone who is just indifferent to the gift?

I would hope that they're not taking it for granted. But that is my concern, that they just feel as if they've kind of received this gift and that they've given no thought to what it's like to be on the other side of that ledger, of being the person who donated. And that's my concern is, gosh, did I give my kidney to someone who is just indifferent to the gift?

I would hope that they're not taking it for granted. But that is my concern, that they just feel as if they've kind of received this gift and that they've given no thought to what it's like to be on the other side of that ledger, of being the person who donated. And that's my concern is, gosh, did I give my kidney to someone who is just indifferent to the gift?