Jason Feifer

But also, I think many people, as they get deeper into a relationship, they start to ask themselves, what's still just mine? What's mine and not ours? And that's been a very important part of my relationship with Jen, my wife, is we have our own things and then we have our things together. But we also do somewhat similar work in that we're both in media.

And so there are a lot of times where things just overlap. And what's interesting is that sometimes they overlap in a way that forces a reduction of something. I'll give you a tiny example. We have a friend named Andy. Andy's a very successful writer. And we've been meaning for Andy and her girlfriend to come over and catch up with Jen and I who haven't seen for a long time.

And so there are a lot of times where things just overlap. And what's interesting is that sometimes they overlap in a way that forces a reduction of something. I'll give you a tiny example. We have a friend named Andy. Andy's a very successful writer. And we've been meaning for Andy and her girlfriend to come over and catch up with Jen and I who haven't seen for a long time.

And so there are a lot of times where things just overlap. And what's interesting is that sometimes they overlap in a way that forces a reduction of something. I'll give you a tiny example. We have a friend named Andy. Andy's a very successful writer. And we've been meaning for Andy and her girlfriend to come over and catch up with Jen and I who haven't seen for a long time.

But at the same time, also, Andy and I had a whole bunch of work things we wanted to talk about, like newsletter strategy and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I realized, you know, if Andy and her girlfriend come over, we're not going to talk business. And I actually kind of want to. And I want to talk about stuff that like Jen's not that interested in, which is like newsletter strategy.

But at the same time, also, Andy and I had a whole bunch of work things we wanted to talk about, like newsletter strategy and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I realized, you know, if Andy and her girlfriend come over, we're not going to talk business. And I actually kind of want to. And I want to talk about stuff that like Jen's not that interested in, which is like newsletter strategy.

But at the same time, also, Andy and I had a whole bunch of work things we wanted to talk about, like newsletter strategy and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I realized, you know, if Andy and her girlfriend come over, we're not going to talk business. And I actually kind of want to. And I want to talk about stuff that like Jen's not that interested in, which is like newsletter strategy.

So we decided to create two plans. There was week one, Andy and Julia came over and we had dinner and we talked about the things all four of us are interested in. And then literally the next week, just Andy and I got together and we talked newsletter strategy and other stuff. And that felt like a really good way to do it because- It's intentional. Yeah, it's intentional.

So we decided to create two plans. There was week one, Andy and Julia came over and we had dinner and we talked about the things all four of us are interested in. And then literally the next week, just Andy and I got together and we talked newsletter strategy and other stuff. And that felt like a really good way to do it because- It's intentional. Yeah, it's intentional.

So we decided to create two plans. There was week one, Andy and Julia came over and we had dinner and we talked about the things all four of us are interested in. And then literally the next week, just Andy and I got together and we talked newsletter strategy and other stuff. And that felt like a really good way to do it because- It's intentional. Yeah, it's intentional.

You get these intersections and one doesn't subtract the other, right? It's not like Andy and I couldn't continue to develop the kind of worky relationship that we would have because it doesn't fit into the relationship that I would share with my wife. And so doing both felt really good and useful. And I think that that's where I want to make sure I'm always living in.

You get these intersections and one doesn't subtract the other, right? It's not like Andy and I couldn't continue to develop the kind of worky relationship that we would have because it doesn't fit into the relationship that I would share with my wife. And so doing both felt really good and useful. And I think that that's where I want to make sure I'm always living in.

You get these intersections and one doesn't subtract the other, right? It's not like Andy and I couldn't continue to develop the kind of worky relationship that we would have because it doesn't fit into the relationship that I would share with my wife. And so doing both felt really good and useful. And I think that that's where I want to make sure I'm always living in.

I want to share as much as we can, but I also want to make sure I'm being mindful of how some things, even things I might share, can still just be mine.

I want to share as much as we can, but I also want to make sure I'm being mindful of how some things, even things I might share, can still just be mine.

I want to share as much as we can, but I also want to make sure I'm being mindful of how some things, even things I might share, can still just be mine.

Thank you for the dual book plug. Yeah, Jen and I wrote a book together. And that was a great project. But we also didn't then immediately start merging all of our work things. In fact, we use each other pretty intentionally in each other's work. For example, my newsletter, I have found that Jen is a great last sounding board before that thing goes out.

Thank you for the dual book plug. Yeah, Jen and I wrote a book together. And that was a great project. But we also didn't then immediately start merging all of our work things. In fact, we use each other pretty intentionally in each other's work. For example, my newsletter, I have found that Jen is a great last sounding board before that thing goes out.

Thank you for the dual book plug. Yeah, Jen and I wrote a book together. And that was a great project. But we also didn't then immediately start merging all of our work things. In fact, we use each other pretty intentionally in each other's work. For example, my newsletter, I have found that Jen is a great last sounding board before that thing goes out.

So I send my newsletter out Tuesday mornings. Monday night, I read the newsletter to her. And after that, I fussed with it all week. And now I just want her to hear it and to call out anything that doesn't work. And fortunately, she hasn't heard it and been like, this thing is terrible. You should throw it away because then I wouldn't have anything on Monday night.