Jason Wilson

But the most unhappiest people I've ever met are people-pleasers. Yeah, it's true. So there's no silence in that. Mm-hmm. So, you know, again, you don't want to be authentic and you an a-hole. You know what I mean? That's not comprehensive. It's not comprehensive. And so, again, you want with my—I talk about the four R's in this book, you know, process—

I teach men of how to make decisions in the moment and reflect. So the first R is reflect. Second R is release. Third R is reset. Then the fourth R is a byproduct of those three, which is rest. So when you reflect on what's troubling you, what's going on in your life, you think on those things, you get to the next R, which is release.

I teach men of how to make decisions in the moment and reflect. So the first R is reflect. Second R is release. Third R is reset. Then the fourth R is a byproduct of those three, which is rest. So when you reflect on what's troubling you, what's going on in your life, you think on those things, you get to the next R, which is release.

And you have to be careful there because you don't want to release everything because. And you don't want to release on someone. Yeah, that's true, too. But if you and Martha, if you were impatient with Martha earlier in the day, you don't want to just release that.

And you have to be careful there because you don't want to release everything because. And you don't want to release on someone. Yeah, that's true, too. But if you and Martha, if you were impatient with Martha earlier in the day, you don't want to just release that.

You want to retain that so you can revisit it and maybe apologize and say, hey, you know, I was impatient with you earlier and I want to ask for your forgiveness and I want to reconcile right now. Yeah. Yeah. Next one is the reset. Reset back to your baseline. I call it lamb mode. So many men want to be in lion mode or the alpha mode. Is it lamb mode? Lamb, like a lamb, sheep, you know, lamb.

You want to retain that so you can revisit it and maybe apologize and say, hey, you know, I was impatient with you earlier and I want to ask for your forgiveness and I want to reconcile right now. Yeah. Yeah. Next one is the reset. Reset back to your baseline. I call it lamb mode. So many men want to be in lion mode or the alpha mode. Is it lamb mode? Lamb, like a lamb, sheep, you know, lamb.

And so lion and the lamb, that's what we teach in the cave of Adelam to bring up the lion when there's predators coming into your pride. I call that fight or flight, the brain's response to stress or trauma. Handle it then, but don't stay there. See, I stayed there in the gas station when that guy was following my wife. I should have reset to lamb mode because everything was safe.

And so lion and the lamb, that's what we teach in the cave of Adelam to bring up the lion when there's predators coming into your pride. I call that fight or flight, the brain's response to stress or trauma. Handle it then, but don't stay there. See, I stayed there in the gas station when that guy was following my wife. I should have reset to lamb mode because everything was safe.

And so that's what I teach men is like, look, never suppress the lion. Bring him out when needed, but put him back and live from the lamb. Then you can reset and there you will find rest.

And so that's what I teach men is like, look, never suppress the lion. Bring him out when needed, but put him back and live from the lamb. Then you can reset and there you will find rest.

Right now he's 16th state of this country is some driving. You know, disproportionately African-Americans are pulled over more than any other ethnicity. And even with unfair cause, no just cause to be pulled over. Statistically, we are less likely to have drugs or firearms. So I'm scared. I'm concerned with that.

Right now he's 16th state of this country is some driving. You know, disproportionately African-Americans are pulled over more than any other ethnicity. And even with unfair cause, no just cause to be pulled over. Statistically, we are less likely to have drugs or firearms. So I'm scared. I'm concerned with that.

But I trust that God will take care of him the same way he took care of my daughter when she was interning in New York. And I love New York. I just didn't want my daughter just on the subway alone. You know, it's just terrifying. But with him, that's my concern. And I'm thankful for the police officers I do know who are just and kind, all different ethnicities.

But I trust that God will take care of him the same way he took care of my daughter when she was interning in New York. And I love New York. I just didn't want my daughter just on the subway alone. You know, it's just terrifying. But with him, that's my concern. And I'm thankful for the police officers I do know who are just and kind, all different ethnicities.

And I have faith that my son, and I have to train him. You see, that's the dynamic of being an African-American in this country. Like, when you have a son, you don't have to teach him how to respond when the police pull you over, per se. I literally tell my son to roll all four windows down so he won't feel threatened. Right. Just arm the police officer. As soon as he pulls you over.

And I have faith that my son, and I have to train him. You see, that's the dynamic of being an African-American in this country. Like, when you have a son, you don't have to teach him how to respond when the police pull you over, per se. I literally tell my son to roll all four windows down so he won't feel threatened. Right. Just arm the police officer. As soon as he pulls you over.

Get your hands up on the, yeah, yeah. And have your ID out. Do you know what that does to his adrenaline, his mind? And just one move could cost him his life.

Get your hands up on the, yeah, yeah. And have your ID out. Do you know what that does to his adrenaline, his mind? And just one move could cost him his life.

And so it's terrifying as a father, man, just to be real with you. But yet, you know... I have to cast that. I can't live from that. I had a lot of losses, and I don't want to live from that type of mentality. I won't be able to stay in the present. My trauma will keep time traveling and ruining it. I should be excited that my son has a driver's license and can drive. Yeah.