Javier

We celebrated our anniversary a few days ago.

Junior year is when I met her.

So that takes us to 1987.

Her personality.

Very outgoing, great smile.

What happened was that my first marriage was coming to an end.

And I told her that it'd be great to connect and have a cup of coffee.

They told me about their first date.

The cup of coffee ended up being a dinner and some beers.

She didn't say, don't look at me, or I'm ashamed of this, or the other, or my boobs are too big, or my butt's too big.

There was never any talk of that.

So I kind of thought that she was happy in her body.

No, no.

I like going with the flow.

I mean, living in the moment and enjoying, you know, whatever's going on in social aspects or social events.

Yeah.

Before it was a conversation and, you know, and now it's a fight.

And one of us is going to walk away angry because we're not seeing eye to eye on something.

So I started really wondering who I was with.

Bottom line is, it became very confusing to me as far as how to manage our relationship.