Jeff English

But so many times it's like, well, my brother had it a lot worse. And it's like, I just throw my hands down and I'm like, it happens almost. That's why we do it. It's like somebody throws some love on you and it's almost like out of my shame and my woundedness, I need to remind you that I'm a piece of shit.

But so many times it's like, well, my brother had it a lot worse. And it's like, I just throw my hands down and I'm like, it happens almost. That's why we do it. It's like somebody throws some love on you and it's almost like out of my shame and my woundedness, I need to remind you that I'm a piece of shit.

A lot of folks, they think that change is about announcing what they know what they're about to do. I know this is going to sound codependent. Well, if you're firing on old pistons as a therapist, the response should be, then don't say it because there's enough muscle memory there. We need to practice the uncomfortable thing of not saying it. The thing you've been saying for years, not doing.

A lot of folks, they think that change is about announcing what they know what they're about to do. I know this is going to sound codependent. Well, if you're firing on old pistons as a therapist, the response should be, then don't say it because there's enough muscle memory there. We need to practice the uncomfortable thing of not saying it. The thing you've been saying for years, not doing.

I'm the last person to be black and white about many things. I think much of my work with clients, individually, in groups, what have you, with human beings is finding the gray. But I tell you what, when it comes to compulsive behaviors, complex post-traumatic stress, these things that we've been doing for years and decades, I'm either strengthening an old connection or I'm building a new one.

I'm the last person to be black and white about many things. I think much of my work with clients, individually, in groups, what have you, with human beings is finding the gray. But I tell you what, when it comes to compulsive behaviors, complex post-traumatic stress, these things that we've been doing for years and decades, I'm either strengthening an old connection or I'm building a new one.

When those clients say, what should I do when I leave this group room? Do something different and experience what it's like to do something different. And so many times it's not doing something. I mean, we've took the vacuum cleaner away from clients before. It's an ingenious damage control strategy. It's written all over the walls. We're here to talk about some deep stuff.

When those clients say, what should I do when I leave this group room? Do something different and experience what it's like to do something different. And so many times it's not doing something. I mean, we've took the vacuum cleaner away from clients before. It's an ingenious damage control strategy. It's written all over the walls. We're here to talk about some deep stuff.

And I'm finally going to be expected to talk about my stuff. We've encouraged other clients to break rules. Some folks at the bridge might not like that, but it's like, you need to go take some coffee into the morning meeting. You've been a rule follower your whole life. Yeah. We were only allowed one coffee a day or something, right? Yeah. That's not much.

And I'm finally going to be expected to talk about my stuff. We've encouraged other clients to break rules. Some folks at the bridge might not like that, but it's like, you need to go take some coffee into the morning meeting. You've been a rule follower your whole life. Yeah. We were only allowed one coffee a day or something, right? Yeah. That's not much.

From what I understand, it's not the strongest coffee in the world either.

From what I understand, it's not the strongest coffee in the world either.

Yeah. So the answer would be yes to the can I do this or can I do that? Yes, because it's not a linear path. Whatever it takes, whatever works. Before I started doing this gig, before I found the bridge, I never thought about doing anything residential when it came to mental health and being a professional, being a therapist. And then all of a sudden, I couldn't imagine doing it any other way.

Yeah. So the answer would be yes to the can I do this or can I do that? Yes, because it's not a linear path. Whatever it takes, whatever works. Before I started doing this gig, before I found the bridge, I never thought about doing anything residential when it came to mental health and being a professional, being a therapist. And then all of a sudden, I couldn't imagine doing it any other way.

Couldn't imagine doing it without the group process because all those things that I'm talking about, there's so much access to vulnerability and let's not box ourself in. Because some folks, it's their truth. Some folks, they can't. They just can't go do something like that. The way that it's changed the way that I approach the individual dynamic, the individual therapy. efficiency, not a rush.

Couldn't imagine doing it without the group process because all those things that I'm talking about, there's so much access to vulnerability and let's not box ourself in. Because some folks, it's their truth. Some folks, they can't. They just can't go do something like that. The way that it's changed the way that I approach the individual dynamic, the individual therapy. efficiency, not a rush.

But I think that through all of the years and all of the clients within the group process and how I see that works and to be able to somehow synthesize that into my individual assessments and the way that I can work with clients, that discovery process doesn't have to be as long as sometimes it plays out to be.

But I think that through all of the years and all of the clients within the group process and how I see that works and to be able to somehow synthesize that into my individual assessments and the way that I can work with clients, that discovery process doesn't have to be as long as sometimes it plays out to be.

So within the spirit of the individual process, it's like we may reach a point where it's like, here's the next level. But the same could be said on the opposite side of that coin. Somebody might be like, I'm going to a residential program. And then they find out all this stuff. And we can take that and integrate that into the individual therapy.

So within the spirit of the individual process, it's like we may reach a point where it's like, here's the next level. But the same could be said on the opposite side of that coin. Somebody might be like, I'm going to a residential program. And then they find out all this stuff. And we can take that and integrate that into the individual therapy.