Jeff Guenther

Oh, well, okay.

So if you're like sharing an account, you probably shouldn't be dipping into that pot.

You know what I mean?

Yes, I have.

Yeah, I learned that lesson the hard way.

I would rather have the trust than the little bit of money in my pocket.

I tell my partner everything except for when I spend money on... Probably how much beer I drink and how much my skateboard parts cost.

The only thing I would maybe say is maybe like a pair of shoes.

Um, well, I think that they bring it up a lot, but they maybe don't really know that that's what they're bringing up because one of the very common issues that they do bring up is money and how they spend money differently.

And a lot of times the when I'm talking to any client, but especially clients that are in a couple.

They feel like they spend money the right way.

Exactly.

And their partner is wrong and they need to teach their partner the right way to do it.

So we have like such weird relationships with money that come from

Our childhood and society and capitalism and consumerism and trauma and scarcity.

Exactly.

And so we come in with very different ideas and views of it.

So it's one of the most difficult things to compromise on or accept that your partner spends in a different way.

Yeah.

Every now and then, usually there's some sort of like aspect to it with financial secrecy, but like the bigger issue around it is like, why do you feel the need to keep this a secret from your partner?