Jefferson Fisher

This is an episode for the parents, parents-to-be, or anybody who is looking to help raise the next generation. And this is what I want to lead off with. And that is number one, the best thing that's happened to me that influenced so much of my life is that my parents allowed me to disagree. My parents allowed me to not like it.

This is an episode for the parents, parents-to-be, or anybody who is looking to help raise the next generation. And this is what I want to lead off with. And that is number one, the best thing that's happened to me that influenced so much of my life is that my parents allowed me to disagree. My parents allowed me to not like it.

Connection is not, when we use the word connection, there's this tendency to think that it's like this Hallmark card. Everything has to be happy. Everybody has to just be pleasant. That's not it. I can connect with you and still be mad at you. I can connect with you and still be upset and disagree. That's what my dad was doing when he told me, well, you don't gotta like it.

Connection is not, when we use the word connection, there's this tendency to think that it's like this Hallmark card. Everything has to be happy. Everybody has to just be pleasant. That's not it. I can connect with you and still be mad at you. I can connect with you and still be upset and disagree. That's what my dad was doing when he told me, well, you don't gotta like it.

Connection is not, when we use the word connection, there's this tendency to think that it's like this Hallmark card. Everything has to be happy. Everybody has to just be pleasant. That's not it. I can connect with you and still be mad at you. I can connect with you and still be upset and disagree. That's what my dad was doing when he told me, well, you don't gotta like it.

You just need to understand it. That's connection right there. He was allowing me the space, the emotions, and said, you don't gotta like it. Sometimes we want our children to be just as happy with the decision we're making As we are. And so we want to continue to control it. We want to influence their feelings, not just so they understand it, but that they like the decision we're making.

You just need to understand it. That's connection right there. He was allowing me the space, the emotions, and said, you don't gotta like it. Sometimes we want our children to be just as happy with the decision we're making As we are. And so we want to continue to control it. We want to influence their feelings, not just so they understand it, but that they like the decision we're making.

You just need to understand it. That's connection right there. He was allowing me the space, the emotions, and said, you don't gotta like it. Sometimes we want our children to be just as happy with the decision we're making As we are. And so we want to continue to control it. We want to influence their feelings, not just so they understand it, but that they like the decision we're making.

And that is, I think, counterintuitive. I think that is ultimately not as healthy as it could be. It is good for children to have different points of view. It is good for them to understand they have a safe space to not like it. It's cool.

And that is, I think, counterintuitive. I think that is ultimately not as healthy as it could be. It is good for children to have different points of view. It is good for them to understand they have a safe space to not like it. It's cool.

And that is, I think, counterintuitive. I think that is ultimately not as healthy as it could be. It is good for children to have different points of view. It is good for them to understand they have a safe space to not like it. It's cool.

If I were to say to you in conversation, this is adult to adult, and you're upset with something I'm saying, and this happens to me on the phone, opposing an attorney. He doesn't like what I am suggesting. I'll use that same technique. I'll say, well, you don't have to like it. That's okay. You hear how like almost as a relief that is to the other person.

If I were to say to you in conversation, this is adult to adult, and you're upset with something I'm saying, and this happens to me on the phone, opposing an attorney. He doesn't like what I am suggesting. I'll use that same technique. I'll say, well, you don't have to like it. That's okay. You hear how like almost as a relief that is to the other person.

If I were to say to you in conversation, this is adult to adult, and you're upset with something I'm saying, and this happens to me on the phone, opposing an attorney. He doesn't like what I am suggesting. I'll use that same technique. I'll say, well, you don't have to like it. That's okay. You hear how like almost as a relief that is to the other person.

If I begin the conversation with, hey, look, you're not going to like what I have to say. Or even when they start to argue with me and I say, look, I don't need to change your mind. I don't need to change your mind. You need to understand this is what I'm doing. You're free to disagree with it. You don't have to like it. There is almost a relief that comes with that.

If I begin the conversation with, hey, look, you're not going to like what I have to say. Or even when they start to argue with me and I say, look, I don't need to change your mind. I don't need to change your mind. You need to understand this is what I'm doing. You're free to disagree with it. You don't have to like it. There is almost a relief that comes with that.

If I begin the conversation with, hey, look, you're not going to like what I have to say. Or even when they start to argue with me and I say, look, I don't need to change your mind. I don't need to change your mind. You need to understand this is what I'm doing. You're free to disagree with it. You don't have to like it. There is almost a relief that comes with that.

So that's why I have as point number one, giving children the space to disagree, which they're going to do naturally, but it's more so giving them the space that it's okay that you don't like it. You just need to understand it. It's okay. You don't have to be happy about it. Don't force them to be happy with the decision or as satisfied with a decision as you are.

So that's why I have as point number one, giving children the space to disagree, which they're going to do naturally, but it's more so giving them the space that it's okay that you don't like it. You just need to understand it. It's okay. You don't have to be happy about it. Don't force them to be happy with the decision or as satisfied with a decision as you are.

So that's why I have as point number one, giving children the space to disagree, which they're going to do naturally, but it's more so giving them the space that it's okay that you don't like it. You just need to understand it. It's okay. You don't have to be happy about it. Don't force them to be happy with the decision or as satisfied with a decision as you are.