Jefferson Fisher

Now, the other people, if they're asking for information on something and they need context, absolutely, I'm going to give that.

But in terms of me initiating a message, if I cannot say it in three sentences, not run-on sentences, but actual grammatical sentences, then I need to go back to the drawing board.

It's that quote about if...

I would have written you a shorter letter if I had had more time.

Like it takes effort to try and condense information down.

And so when I can do that, that's me being direct.

And when I can use the method that we just talked about, what I just taught you of stating first what the issue is to say, this is my problem.

Two, this is the impact to me, how it has affected me.

And three, the fix, the resolution, the result.

This is what I am asking you to do.

Whether it's just to listen, whether it's just to note it for the record, whether it is to compensate me to be able to recover something back in some way, to remedy this, that is a system that you can use in a lot of different contexts.

They are fighting to feel understood by you.

The people who will use silence as a punishment, that to me is the number one sign of low emotional intelligence.

Jay, thanks for having me.

Yeah.

It's unlocked a life of peace for me.

A lot of people say you sound very calm.

Well, it's because I've been through a lot of hard.

And that means a lot of hard communication, a lot of hard conversations.

The greater tolerance I have for communication