Jefferson Fisher

And I keep walking and I walk out of that entire terminal and I have to go realize I have to go through security and another part of it. And I turned around and there was one of the TSA ladies. And I said, oh my gosh, I think I went through that. I got to go through this all again. And she said, well, you should have been looking at the signs. We had lots of signs.

And I keep walking and I walk out of that entire terminal and I have to go realize I have to go through security and another part of it. And I turned around and there was one of the TSA ladies. And I said, oh my gosh, I think I went through that. I got to go through this all again. And she said, well, you should have been looking at the signs. We had lots of signs.

I said, well, yeah, I guess I should have seen the signs. I just didn't, I didn't see them. She goes, no, it's your fault, Cher. It's your fault. Dead serious. This is what she said to me yesterday. And I just stopped and I said, did you feel better saying that? And all of a sudden she got red. She goes, I'm sorry, sir. You're right. I'm sorry. I was frustrated. Yes, sir.

I said, well, yeah, I guess I should have seen the signs. I just didn't, I didn't see them. She goes, no, it's your fault, Cher. It's your fault. Dead serious. This is what she said to me yesterday. And I just stopped and I said, did you feel better saying that? And all of a sudden she got red. She goes, I'm sorry, sir. You're right. I'm sorry. I was frustrated. Yes, sir.

I said, well, yeah, I guess I should have seen the signs. I just didn't, I didn't see them. She goes, no, it's your fault, Cher. It's your fault. Dead serious. This is what she said to me yesterday. And I just stopped and I said, did you feel better saying that? And all of a sudden she got red. She goes, I'm sorry, sir. You're right. I'm sorry. I was frustrated. Yes, sir.

Like it was just a totally different. It's like that you can't let it penetrate.

Like it was just a totally different. It's like that you can't let it penetrate.

Like it was just a totally different. It's like that you can't let it penetrate.

Is that what we're going for? You got it. And that's the whole point of asking those questions. You become the mirror. And if it's really bad, you can ask them to repeat it. And then they have to be their own echo. But when you can say, did you mean for that to be... But also, I would say it also clarifies things. Yes.

Is that what we're going for? You got it. And that's the whole point of asking those questions. You become the mirror. And if it's really bad, you can ask them to repeat it. And then they have to be their own echo. But when you can say, did you mean for that to be... But also, I would say it also clarifies things. Yes.

Is that what we're going for? You got it. And that's the whole point of asking those questions. You become the mirror. And if it's really bad, you can ask them to repeat it. And then they have to be their own echo. But when you can say, did you mean for that to be... But also, I would say it also clarifies things. Yes.

So like in a text message between me and my wife, if it's, did you mean for that to be short? That saves a lot of arguments. Yes. A lot of assumptions. Yes.

So like in a text message between me and my wife, if it's, did you mean for that to be short? That saves a lot of arguments. Yes. A lot of assumptions. Yes.

So like in a text message between me and my wife, if it's, did you mean for that to be short? That saves a lot of arguments. Yes. A lot of assumptions. Yes.

Welcome to the Jefferson Fisher Podcast, where I'm on a mission to make your next conversation the one that changes everything. If you enjoy learning tools to improve your communication, I'm going to ask you to please follow this podcast. And if you would, leave a review or a like or a star. It really matters and it means a lot to me and I look at it all.

Welcome to the Jefferson Fisher Podcast, where I'm on a mission to make your next conversation the one that changes everything. If you enjoy learning tools to improve your communication, I'm going to ask you to please follow this podcast. And if you would, leave a review or a like or a star. It really matters and it means a lot to me and I look at it all.

Welcome to the Jefferson Fisher Podcast, where I'm on a mission to make your next conversation the one that changes everything. If you enjoy learning tools to improve your communication, I'm going to ask you to please follow this podcast. And if you would, leave a review or a like or a star. It really matters and it means a lot to me and I look at it all.

So if you have any topic suggestions, just throw them in the comments. My new book, The Next Conversation is officially out. You can find the links down in the show notes. This is a book that's going to give you not just what to say, but how to say it and give you tools immediately to help give you the power to change everything about your life simply by what you say next. I'm really proud of it.

So if you have any topic suggestions, just throw them in the comments. My new book, The Next Conversation is officially out. You can find the links down in the show notes. This is a book that's going to give you not just what to say, but how to say it and give you tools immediately to help give you the power to change everything about your life simply by what you say next. I'm really proud of it.

So if you have any topic suggestions, just throw them in the comments. My new book, The Next Conversation is officially out. You can find the links down in the show notes. This is a book that's going to give you not just what to say, but how to say it and give you tools immediately to help give you the power to change everything about your life simply by what you say next. I'm really proud of it.