Jefferson Fisher

That's exactly where you're not having to feel like, what is your deepest desire? Tell me about your childhood. Like these things that I don't I don't know you. Is that is that the way you feel about it? Like if you're going to conversation and instead of this, what else? Question mark versus what else? Like you finding ways of sounding them, make them sound like a statement.

I love that. Not asking about facts. Ask about how they feel. That's something that's immediately applicable that somebody could apply right now. And what I see, too, is in my line and work as an attorney, in cross-examination, when you're asking somebody questions, a lot of the time you can tell somebody. what they're wanting to talk about based on how they end their first sentence.

I love that. Not asking about facts. Ask about how they feel. That's something that's immediately applicable that somebody could apply right now. And what I see, too, is in my line and work as an attorney, in cross-examination, when you're asking somebody questions, a lot of the time you can tell somebody. what they're wanting to talk about based on how they end their first sentence.

I love that. Not asking about facts. Ask about how they feel. That's something that's immediately applicable that somebody could apply right now. And what I see, too, is in my line and work as an attorney, in cross-examination, when you're asking somebody questions, a lot of the time you can tell somebody. what they're wanting to talk about based on how they end their first sentence.

Oh, that's interesting. When they end their answer. They might end their answer just a little bit short because they are trying to invite you to let them in just a little bit more, to talk just a little bit more. So it's very telling how... They end their answer. They might end it on like a cliffhanger or somebody might say, you know, yeah. And so they might they might end it with it. Yeah.

Oh, that's interesting. When they end their answer. They might end their answer just a little bit short because they are trying to invite you to let them in just a little bit more, to talk just a little bit more. So it's very telling how... They end their answer. They might end it on like a cliffhanger or somebody might say, you know, yeah. And so they might they might end it with it. Yeah.

Oh, that's interesting. When they end their answer. They might end their answer just a little bit short because they are trying to invite you to let them in just a little bit more, to talk just a little bit more. So it's very telling how... They end their answer. They might end it on like a cliffhanger or somebody might say, you know, yeah. And so they might they might end it with it. Yeah.

So, you know, that's. And they've kind of hit a dead end. They're not sure how to get there. And so they're inviting you to kind of help me, walk me through that door.

So, you know, that's. And they've kind of hit a dead end. They're not sure how to get there. And so they're inviting you to kind of help me, walk me through that door.

So, you know, that's. And they've kind of hit a dead end. They're not sure how to get there. And so they're inviting you to kind of help me, walk me through that door.

That's so funny. Yeah, so my grandfather would have this habit of when we'd be, like, at a restaurant all together, and he'd ask you, you know, Jefferson, how's that fish? And I'd say, well, it's great. And it was an invitation for me to say, would you like a bite? That was always his go-to. He would say, yeah, how's that chicken right there? And it's his way of saying, that looks good.

That's so funny. Yeah, so my grandfather would have this habit of when we'd be, like, at a restaurant all together, and he'd ask you, you know, Jefferson, how's that fish? And I'd say, well, it's great. And it was an invitation for me to say, would you like a bite? That was always his go-to. He would say, yeah, how's that chicken right there? And it's his way of saying, that looks good.

That's so funny. Yeah, so my grandfather would have this habit of when we'd be, like, at a restaurant all together, and he'd ask you, you know, Jefferson, how's that fish? And I'd say, well, it's great. And it was an invitation for me to say, would you like a bite? That was always his go-to. He would say, yeah, how's that chicken right there? And it's his way of saying, that looks good.

And he'd invite me and go, would you like a bite? And I'd go, yeah, I think I would. Sounds like a super communicator. I think he knew what he wanted out of the conversation. That's the invitation right there is what you're hearing. I love that. The takeaway is instead of trying to push your point, even in the small, little everyday conversations, you find ways to ask more questions.

And he'd invite me and go, would you like a bite? And I'd go, yeah, I think I would. Sounds like a super communicator. I think he knew what he wanted out of the conversation. That's the invitation right there is what you're hearing. I love that. The takeaway is instead of trying to push your point, even in the small, little everyday conversations, you find ways to ask more questions.

And he'd invite me and go, would you like a bite? And I'd go, yeah, I think I would. Sounds like a super communicator. I think he knew what he wanted out of the conversation. That's the invitation right there is what you're hearing. I love that. The takeaway is instead of trying to push your point, even in the small, little everyday conversations, you find ways to ask more questions.

Super communicators ask much more than the average person on questions that they can put into somebody else's life. The takeaway is invest in the questions. That's exactly right. Exactly. I love that. I want to tell you about a sponsor of this podcast called Cozy Earth. The reason why I went with Cozy was because I already use their products. Their sheets are on my bed right now.

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